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  • By: Patrick King
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Summary

Stand your ground without guilt, fear, or awkward tension. Finally get what you deserve and stop letting it slide.

Who is making your life choices for you? Make sure you possess the everyday assertiveness to choose for yourself and resist the pressures from all angles of life. You’ve put yourself last your entire life. It’s time for that to change.

Stop enabling, people pleasing, and being so agreeable. The Art of Everyday Assertiveness is a guide for the chronically nice, overwhelmed, and accommodating. It is a deep psychological dive into what makes us lack assertiveness and how to systematically combat those compulsions. It’s a book that stands apart from others because of the plethora of real-life examples and solutions. 

If your problem is assertiveness, you’ll find the step-by-step answer in this book. Included is a 28-day assertiveness action plan unlike any other. Gain respect, set boundaries, and ask for what you really want.

Patrick King is an internationally best-selling author and social skills coach. His writing draws on a variety of sources, including research, academic experience, coaching, and real-life experience. He’s also a recovering people pleaser who knows exactly how it feels to feel unable to speak his mind.

Stop putting others first and being taken advantage of.

  • How to balance assertiveness, accommodation, and agreeableness
  • How to practice self-acceptance, prioritization, and empathy
  • The instinct to over-apologize and how to fix it
  • The reasons that keep you compliant and willing
  • How to decisively say NO and reclaim your time and energy
  • How to ask for exactly what you want, when you want it
  • Saying NO with impact and grace
  • Understanding your subconscious thought patterns and beliefs
©2018 Peter Hollins (P)2018 Peter Hollins

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great and practical

loved the book. just what I needed to help me become assertive. will recommend to anyone who wants to come out of the trap.

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Easy to understand, informative

This book was an eye-opener for me. I never understood where my communication with other's go off the rail why they take advantage of me, why I cannot express myself the way I indend to. Now I have a better understanding and I've got some tools how can I change this.
the book and the audio is pleasant to the ears and easy to understand even for non-native speakers.

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Insightful

An interesting perspective on the differences between aggressiveness and assertiveness, as well as the passive style of communication. Worth a few hours of your time.

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Really good!

This is really helping me to become a me a stronger person. I love it!

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Very practical

Clear, valuable tips. Well worth reading to improve your assertiveness skills. Nicely structured. I'll re-listen for sure to absorb the ideas fully.

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Just what I needed.

The activities at the end of the book at just what I needed. It’s been interesting to learn how I’ve been approaching issues from a passive perspective and that being assertive isn’t all that scary. Would definitely recommend! 👍

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Incredibly simplistic

This gives such a shallow description of what assertiveness, aggression, passivity and passive-aggression is. The advice boils down to 'be more assertive and less passive'

Didn't finish so maybe final chapters really blossomed.

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Very Useful

I particularly liked the last chapter that gives a day by day guide to becoming more assertive

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Lots of very practical advice and insight.

For people who struggle to be assertive this book is ideal. Really helped me straight away to start taking control and being myself without feeling guilty. Go for it. What have you got to lose? This book could change your life.

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A decent book

It is a decent book to listen/read. This book had a few thing's that will help many people, but I would recommend that the book needs more examples of assertiveness in it. I recommend it.

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