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  • The Chump Lady's Survival Guide
  • By: Tracy Schorn
  • Narrated by: Laura Copland
  • Length: 6 hrs and 36 mins
  • 4.9 out of 5 stars (67 ratings)
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Summary

Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity - but saving your sanity.

When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters - their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Full of solid advice that champions self-respect, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more.

Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.

©2016 Tracy Schorn (P)2017 Tantor

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Brilliant

Brilliant audiobook! helped me so much after my husband cheated. Thank you Chump lady.

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Crawled my way from confusion to clarity in 6 hours!

My husband left me after 37 years, said he wanted to be single, live without being answerable to anyone else now the children were grown. As the song goes ‘single my ass!’ He moved in with his cycling ‘friend’ someone he’d know for 10 years and been on cycling trips with. I was chumped! I will stunned, catatonic, suicidal. I just couldn’t compute what had happened to my life just as I was looking forward to sharing golden years with my husband. Tracey Shorn helped me stop thinking about how to win the pick me dance and get well and move forward.

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Powerful Stuff

I would say that even if you are a "chump" (aka: betrayed spouse) going through an experience of infidelity and attempting reconciliation. This book has a powerful way of opening your eyes, empowering you, and helping you to identify your needs and feelings. A powerful listen.

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Better than therapy, my life line in the most difficult time

This book is a MUST if you have just discovered your partner is living a double life or you are with a manipulative person. Please save yourself and listen to this ! 4 years on and I still think it’s the best book I have ever read

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Brilliant- the plain simple truth.

Loved this book - Tracy describes clearly why and how serial cheaters take control. This book definitely helped me make sense of the drama and start healing.

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Listening again!

I am a chump. A really hurt chump. This book has helped me so much. I started listening to it again immediately. It's a must for anyone dealing with the shit sandwich of infidelity. It had me punching the air when it acknowledged the time in addition to money stolen from the family by cheaters as well as the risks your charming partner has played with your health! It has helped me examine what has been done to me and my son, start to really face up to it and has given me a real shove to not let it bloody destroy me. It is brilliant. Thank you Tracy. I am so grateful.

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You saved me!

Best book on infidelity I have ever read. It proved that it's not just me and I am not going mad. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

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Post infidelity must have!

This book helped me more than going to therapy!! I know I will refer back to it regularly on my new life’s path of healing and coparenting, post infidelity.

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Thankyou for writing this book!

Please, please read this book if you’ve been cheated on! Thankyou Tracy for being so honest and writing exactly what I’ve been thinking but couldn’t put into words. I’m also a double chump and just nodded and said ‘yes!’ so many times throughout the book. I’d recommend the audiobook for listening in the car and on the move to reinforce the message that cheaters cheat and isn’t it about time to get them out of our heads? No more hopium for me… I’ve now lost that addiction! Move on and get over it! Sounds harsh but it’s exactly what I needed to hear. I especially recommend this book for partners of narcissists or those with NPD traits who are serial cheaters. Get out and live your best life!

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Important read if you've ever been cheated on

Really enjoyed the message and will share it with loved ones who have been or are going through it themselves. It's OK to move forward, it really is and you WILL become better for it. Surprised and comforted by how familiar and relatable the stories shared here were. I found myself nodding along and sometimes even laughing out loud. Chump no more!

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