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In How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved, Sandra L. Brown, MA, describes eight types of dangerous men, their specific traits, and characteristics. She explores victim's stories that tell how they came in contact with each type of dangerous man and their outcome. Brown then presents how to develop a defense strategy - how to spot, avoid, or rid themselves of this type of dangerous man. Brown explains women's innate "red flag" systems - how they work to signal impending danger, and why many women learn to ignore them. With red flags in hand, Brown then guides the listeners through their own personal experiences to develop a personalized "Do Not Date" list. With these tools, Brown shows women how they can spot and avoid patterns of engagement with dangerous men.

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Absolutely necessary book for women

This book is a life saviour to any woman who finds herself in any abusive relationship and as a must help other women.

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Listen to this. Then listen to it again!!

Life changing. Narration is slightly difficult to listen to but subject matter is worth putting up with it for. Excellent if sometimes unsettling listening but essential homework for every woman!

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Be Equipped

This is a book that I believe every woman and man should read before entering into the dating game. It will save a lot of headache. As dangerous men exists so those dangerous women. Ignorance and naïveté is not a virtue but a handicap. Sandra Brown did a brilliant job here in this book outlining some of the red flags to look out for. As much as we prefer for the world to be a perfect place with perfect people, it is not and knowledge will help us navigate some otherwise tricky terrain. Some of us grew up green and wet around the ears and while it is good to be protected, it is also necessary to be equipped. This book serves as one of the arsenals in the emotional equipment storage.

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Amazing

I’m so happy I picked this book! I cannot express how much it has thought me and and help me understand why am I picking toxic men. 10/10. Totally recommended

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Extremely engaging

A must read for every woman in or knows someone in a relationship that is toxic. This book has opened my eyes to where I've been going wrong in my 30+ years of going from one disastrous relationship to another. Grateful I found it, it may just have saved my life. 🙏

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no nonsense therapy

narrated clearly. Great to hear other women's stories. defense strategy is great for deciding if a guys pathological but the book doesn't really explain how to get away from persistent men when 'no' isn't working.

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Must read for every woman

Fantastically written. Full of valid information. Must read!!!!
As a victim of DV and a life time of choosing wrong men … this book is worth it’s weight in gold.

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Clarified existing knowledge

Great in everyway.
Remember, men can be a little bit of everything - a mix of dangerous traits and behaviours.
Educate yourself on trauma bond.

Women who love psychopaths is also a must listen

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A must for all, not just DA survivors!

If you're looking for a book to about not making the same mistakes after surviving an abusive or toxic relationship, I cannot recommend this one enough!

Incredibly powerful and compelling audiobook that details the patterns and behaviours of both dangerous men (don't assume that physical abusers are the only type!!!) and the women at risk of fall for them.

This audiobook has empowered me to recognise red flags before they snowball and also given a lot of food for thought about recognising my own behaviours and core beliefs that put me at risk.

Gonna recommend this book to woman in my life.Thank you!!

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A must have book for any young woman or any woman

wish I'd been given this information as a teen I could of avoid a whole life time of poor dating choices. I didn't appreciate all my choices as "dangerous" however after listening to this book I can see how they were all incredibly damaging to me my life and my purpose. I've ordered the workbook and will be giving my 16yr old niece a copy. cannot recommend enough!

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  • 11-08-17

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All women should read this book. Even if you have never experienced a dangerous man, this information will keep it that way!

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  • 13-11-17

Thank you Sandra Brown, for writing this book!!

This has already given me a much broader sense of confidence again in navigating romantic relationships now & in the future. Your no-nonsense, clearly defined & objective wisdom is sooooo greatly appreciated & refreshing to grasp on any level! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

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A Must Read for ALL women

the reader's voice is monotone throughout with no real inflrcionbut I think she had to be due to the series divussionn. I thought I detected a victim mentality promotion at the beginning but she straightened out the misconception at the end. The information is absolutely necessary and should be mandatory for all women before we make/ or fall for these mistakes. This is one of the best Self-Help books I've listened to Ever. I will b gifting it to a few family members and friend that I think need the message and are open to receiving it. I'm going in again...its more than a one time listen. Oh, I feel so empowered just listen to this book. now I have to act on the lessons learned. I am in a relationship trying 2 get OUT and Now that I've identified hi I will act accordingly. God Blessin

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  • Chrome Dragonfly
  • 04-09-18

Hear, learn, move forward.

It seems elementary to hear it.
I can't look back though.
That's not the direction I'm going.

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  • Terrie M D
  • 28-07-18

Wonderful Wonderful!!!!

Ladies take the time to listen to or read this valuable resource. I had no idea there are dangerous men other than psychopaths. Thank you for opening my eyes - wide open!!!

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  • Annemarie
  • 05-01-19

Every woman should read or listen.

Every woman should read or listen to this book. It’s helpful, informative and well written. I highly recommend this book.

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  • izen
  • 23-11-21

Redefines dangerous, a must read!

Dangerous is defined as a man who takes from us emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually, & sexually.

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  • Jessica
  • 03-07-21

An absolute must-read!

Absolutely amazing! This book provides such a wealth of insightful, well-researched information, that every woman should read! The stories within are relatable and eye-opening! I read the reviews about the monotone, robotic narrator, and was worried about it, but I disagree with them. The narration sounds just fine. Read this book! It will open your eyes to things you never even realized you were doing, or missing. It better yet, it will open your eyes to what others were doing to you!

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  • Ayanna M
  • 01-11-18

This Should Be Required Reading!

I wish I’d had this book as a freshman in college. 20 years later and the revelations it has brought me are tremendous. Thank you for sharing this treasure with us.

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  • Angela Davis
  • 23-07-18

Thank You for Writing This Book

This book has changed my life for the better—thank God you wrote this book and have the companion workbook. Although I knew something was wrong with these dangerous men I was dating- I also knew that I picked these men to date so something was wrong with me too! Thank you for this book!

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