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  • The Silent Guides

  • How to understand and develop children's emotions, thinking and behaviours
  • By: Prof Steve Peters
  • Narrated by: Prof Steve Peters
  • Length: 5 hrs and 1 min
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (1,070 ratings)

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Summary

From the author of the million-copy selling The Chimp Paradox

How can we help our children:

  • become more resilient?
  • get over mistakes? 
  • develop a positive outlook?

And, what can we do to become better role models?

Prof Steve Peters uses his Chimp Mind Management Model to help parents, teachers and carers understand the neuroscience behind unconscious beliefs and habits that may be silently guiding children's emotions, thinking and behaviours.

The Silent Guides explores ten positive habits and many related themes taken from the children's educational book My Hidden Chimp.

Prof Steve Peters helps challenge unhelpful behaviours such as:

  • being overly self-critical
  • fear of failure
  • low self-esteem

This is an important and groundbreaking new audiobook from the best-selling author of The Chimp Paradox and the creator of the chimp management mind model.

©2018 Steve Peters (P)2018 Bonnier

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It is all about children!!??

I purchased thinking it was about adults not kids!? good listen though... if I had only listened to it when my Son was a child. couldn't really apply any of it to adult behaviour so kind of a waste of a purchase to me.

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Not as adbertised, and terrible regardless

This is not a self-help book for adults; it is a parenting book that splices together some basic child development theories with nuggets of often misrepresented neuroscience, and superimposes them on the author's reinterpretation of the triune brain. Given that that model has been discredited by neuroscientists, it just does not stack up. I was genuinely shocked when the author described himself as a doctor, as he reads like a marketer who checked out a few Wikipedia pages and the abstracts to the first five scientific papers that came under his nose, and decided to run with that. It's a shame as some of the advice could actually be useful to some people (although if you need to be told that children's brains are still developing, you should probably not be parenting). The pseudoscience adds no content, and detracts from the credibility of the author. However, were it to the best parenting book in the world, it should still not be missold as an entirely different type of work.

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Excellent book a must read/listen for any parent

The first book, Chimp Paradox, was great for SELF improvement and understanding how the mind works however, this book guides parents on how best to nurture and communicate with children so that wrongful or unhelpful beliefs aren't inadvertently adopted by the child.

I'm a busy working mum with all the normal pressures of life of limited time, advancing technology and battling a child wanting unlimited and unrestricted access to social media and I've found that this book has helped me to better communicate with my child and put my priorities in place. A must read for anyone looking to be a better parent.

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Parenting Book. 100% about kids. Not for me!

This is a great book for parents with kids... the younger the better.

As a childless adult... it was frustrating.
Listening to things that could have been beneficial to me as a child and nothing that is beneficial now.

I think the book should be directed to parents and it could get 5 stars all the way. It wasn't clear.

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Must read for any parent or guardian.

I wish I have read this book years earlier. Both my human and my chimp are happy I stored it into my computer. If you do not understand then read or listen to the book. Steve Peters at his best.

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Hit the sweet spot!

It is the perfect combination of helpful advice, scientific explanation, intuitive counselling, and mild communication. I have already bought the book people form, and the children’s book as well. I believe that it is a very helpful piece of advice for assembling a human manual.

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Tells me more about myself than my kids

Wow, I got this book to help me be a better parent, but what I took away was not only that, but understanding about myself, how my emotions are processed and how my human brain can reprogramme the computer brain so that I can have a better emotional control of unpredictable situations. Best part, it has helped me recognise when other adults are being triggered by their chimp brain and allow myself to remain in control, rather than match their chimp with my own.

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Child focused

This book is helping me to be a better grandma and person, I wish this book had been about when I was bringing up my children . Everyone can benefit from listening to this.

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Useful

A good ready with excellent insights into the working of the mind. I still use and work the ‘chimp paradox’ every day and hope to do the same with this one. Perhaps not as in-depth as it’s predecessor but nonetheless well put together and useful

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Great guide for all who help or work with children

Excellent guide for parents and teachers with positive suggestions for tricky moments. Easy to follow and makes sense. Solution focused conversations can easily be applied at home or in the classroom... as long as our own chimps are behaving themselves!

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