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Needing to Know for Sure

By: Martin N. Seif PhD,Sally M. Winston PsyD
Narrated by: Holly Adams
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Summary

"How do I know I made the right decision?" "What if I'm wrong?" "I need to know for sure."

Do you have thoughts like these - thoughts that cause you to second-guess yourself? Do you find yourself repeatedly checking your email for no reason, asking others for their opinions about something again and again, or lying awake at night overanalyzing and planning ahead in an attempt to feel less anxious? If so, you probably have a problem with compulsive reassurance seeking. The good news is that you can break free from this "reassurance trap" - this book will show you how.

In this unique guide, you'll find proven-effective tips and tools using CBT to help you tolerate uncertainty, face specific worrying scenarios, and gradually reduce the compulsion to incessantly seek reassurance. Most importantly, you'll learn to deal with those pesky "doubt attacks" and trust your own judgment.

Asking for reassurance is a self-reinforcing behavior - if you do it, you're less likely to handle stressful situations without needing further reassurance. And so the cycle continues. The CBT skills in this book will help you break this exhausting and painful pattern, so you can build self-confidence and improve your life.

©2019 Martin N. Seif and Sally M. Winston (P)2021 Tantor

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excellent

A must read if you have OCD. interesting and informative. gives you real tools to use.

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found the voice of the speaker annoying . I couldn't stick with it and gave up after an hour. might try hardback

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The dialogue between “worried voice”, “false comfort” and “wise mind” bothers me. The book is interesting and very helpful, but the way the text is read is very repetitive and frustrating to listen to.
Example “Worried voice: XYZ, supportive friend: XYZ, Worried voice: ABC, supportive friend: …, worried voice:… etc”
It ends up sounding too repetitive and difficult to follow. It could have been brought much more natural. Good book but I don’t know if I will be able to finish it because of the repetitiveness… a shame!

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I wish I found this book earlier.

Helpful in so many ways, a simple and effective approach to dealing with OCD. therapists should use this book and not overcomplicate things.

For anyone reading this book struggling with OCD related issues, from personal experience I would recommend using a combination of therapy based treatment as well as mindfulness/spiritual practices. To get started with true mindfulness I would highly recommend 'The power of now' by Eckhart Tolle.

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  • 17-06-21

Very helpful

The first two chapters made me anxious. But there are so many great tips given in this book. I absolutely love it.