Listen free for 30 days

  • Befriending Your Nervous System

  • Looking Through the Lens of Polyvagal Theory
  • By: Deborah Dana LCSW
  • Narrated by: Deborah Dana LCSW
  • Length: 8 hrs and 24 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (51 ratings)

One credit a month, good for any title to download and keep.
Unlimited listening to the Plus Catalogue - thousands of select Audible Originals, podcasts and audiobooks.
Exclusive member-only deals.
No commitment - cancel anytime.
Buy Now for £40.49

Buy Now for £40.49

Pay using card ending in
By completing your purchase, you agree to Audible's Conditions of Use and authorise Audible to charge your designated card or any other card on file. Please see our Privacy Notice, Cookies Notice and Interest-based Ads Notice.

Summary

Harness the power of your nervous system to support healthy relationships and personal well-being.

Why is it that when you have a tense conversation with a boss, coworker, or partner, you feel like you’re staring down a charging rhinoceros? How is it that both situations cause a fight-or-flight response - and what can you learn from it?

As it turns out, the same neurological processes that cause unwanted stress can also be harnessed to summon relaxation, spaciousness, and equanimity. In Befriending Your Nervous System, clinician Deb Dana presents a simple, hopeful message: When you approach these subconscious processes with openness, mindful attention, and - above all - curiosity, you can gain the understanding necessary to shape their outcomes. Dana draws from the recent explosion of research in polyvagal theory, which posits that our most hardwired survival responses are regulated by the vagus nerve and can be consciously regulated through repeated exercises.

Here, you will learn:

  • How to interpret the subtle language of the nervous system
  • Present-moment awareness and the mechanics of choice
  • Your personal “protection-connection” equation
  • How to cultivate and savor positive nervous states
  • Why it’s paramount that you examine your internalized stories about the world
  • How to discover the stillness available in every moment
  • What actually nourishes your autonomic nervous system
  • The continuum of resilience
  • T­­he process of reciprocity, rupture, and repair
  • How to recognize physical cues of both safety and danger

Dana teaches how to work with the body’s innate ability to pick up social signals and cultivate “micro-moments” of safety, retraining your automatic responses to stress, conflict, and hardship. Including in-depth practices such as guided imagery, meditation, and ongoing self-inquiry, Befriending Your Nervous System offers a practical user’s manual for anyone seeking greater wellness, self-awareness, and emotional resilience.

 PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio. 

©2020 Deborah Dana, LCSW (P)2020 Sounds True

What listeners say about Befriending Your Nervous System

Average customer ratings
Overall
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    43
  • 4 Stars
    4
  • 3 Stars
    2
  • 2 Stars
    2
  • 1 Stars
    0
Performance
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    33
  • 4 Stars
    0
  • 3 Stars
    1
  • 2 Stars
    3
  • 1 Stars
    0
Story
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    31
  • 4 Stars
    2
  • 3 Stars
    1
  • 2 Stars
    2
  • 1 Stars
    1

Reviews - Please select the tabs below to change the source of reviews.

Sort by:
Filter by:
  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

This book will truly change your life!

The Polyvagal Theory is one of those rare things that can help in all walks of life for so many different issues.
This is a gentle, simple and beautiful book which introduces you to your nervous system and helps you to do what it says on the cover - to befriend it. This is the very best friend you will ever have.
Thank you Deb for interpreting Dr Stephen Porges work on Polyvagal studies so enchantingly but with such clarity and perception.
This book really does change lives....

12 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Wonderful, insightful audiobook, thank you.

I have found this book insightful. It is very useful for anybody who is interested in counselling, therapy, personal growth and relationships.

3 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

soothing and informative

A really clear and informative explanation of the polyvagal theory and how to regulate back into safety and calmness

1 person found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Definitely worth it

I really liked this audiobook. Deb Danas voice is calming itself. It's over 8 hours of content with practical exercises. I found it really helpful, and would totally recommend it.

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars

Wonderful journey

Loved it, strongly recommended. Voice is calming and pauses allow you to take time to absorb. Musical intervals which are lovely.

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

beautiful book

life changing, soothing. Definitely recommend for anyone who is interested in polyvagal theory. A striped down and paced book

Sort by:
Filter by:
  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for William R. Krapek
  • William R. Krapek
  • 25-01-21

This is exactly what I needed.

I suffered from extreme and ongoing abuse and neglect the first dozen years or so in my life, and until now there really was no hope for people like me. We really are deep in a well! Now I know that making the change I need is like changing the course of a mighty river. Just got to give it time and attention. And the incredible news is the strategies are so tiny and yet powerful.

21 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Darren Lee
  • Darren Lee
  • 15-01-21

Regulating

This is a wonderful application of how to calm your nervous system using specific techniques. Deb has a pleasant voice and the class has a well-organized, casual pace. This book is ahead of its time.

18 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Carri Moser Camp
  • Carri Moser Camp
  • 27-08-21

Best mental health recovery book to begin with!

The nervous system is not addressed properly by pharmaceuticals when the body has suffered physical and emotional trauma.

Shock, diseases and conflicts about the broken health care system make stress a huge challenge for the nervous system.

This is the most helpful information about understanding how to get your heart and mind to communicate properly with others too.

I pray it will help me reenter Standard care with an open heart. I have been in hospice one year....your book helped me get the courage to stand up to oncology once again.

I am the evidence you can survive breast cancer without going chemotherapy Land. Being told you have 1 year 2 at the most is horrible for the nervous system..I stand by Proverbs 18:21. 'the power if the tounge' It's 4 years 9 months of a 'Me and Jesus" journey.

I survive because Audible brings me books like these by folks trying to tell people how to process and communicate with Love and hope.

Thank you 😇 you touched me 💫🙆‍♀️

7 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    1 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    1 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for EllenP
  • EllenP
  • 21-04-22

Lots of hand waving

I was very hopeful when I first started this book, but it turns out there isn't science to back up this theory.

It sounds good, right? But when I started looking at the graphics they made less and less sense.

It has a whole vocabulary they made up to go with the theory, but as with many things in today's wellness marketplace, it isn't substantiated. Disappointing.

3 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    2 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    1 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Tiffany
  • Tiffany
  • 21-07-22

Not worth the time and money to listen.

Well narrated, but the book essentially tells you to pay attention to your thoughts and feelings and relax. Not worth the money or time to listen since it wasn't anymore helpful than going to a relaxing meditation session.

2 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    1 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    1 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    1 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Carl Kissin
  • Carl Kissin
  • 12-03-22

Some value and insights but slow and belabored

This could have been a 12 minute TED talk. Or a 5 minute read on Medium.com

2 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    1 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    1 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Anessa Pfeifer
  • Anessa Pfeifer
  • 10-01-22

Not good as an audio book

Really wanted to learn all of this, but I’m going to have to buy the book. Not a good topic for an audio book.

2 people found this helpful