Another Great Book By This Author

After reading a couple of okay to pretty good books by this author I enjoyed her return to a great book immensely. Once again it's about finding family in the the world, when the family you have isn't up to the job. It's the story of a child that stumbles upon and then chooses to act in loco parentis for someone they happen to meet in their life. The actual parent is not so much a bad person as they are a poor parent and thus the child is in need of a real adult in their lives. The author's ability to create a few very likable characters and relationships is good enough that I've listened to six of her audiobooks ranging from good to really good or great and mostly enjoyed listening to very similar stories six times. This one might be the best of the six and at worst is third best. A full five stars for the story of a child who is forced to become an adult far too soon; and the adult who chooses to take on something very close to a parental role. I recommend both this author and this book heartily.

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Interesting book

I have read several of Ms. Hyde's books now. I find a recurring theme of poor or absent parenting skills runs through them. I find her topics thought provoking, but am disappointed in her recurring view that poor parenting builds character.
I really enjoyed the relationship in this book between the main character and the "lonely neighbor. Overall I would recommend this book.

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Can't get past inhumane treatment of sister/daughter

This is in some ways a well-written and powerful book, similar to the author's others. It is a real tearjerker, and were it not for the way the author handles Sophie, the narrator's autistic sister, I would recommend it.

But the treatment of Sophie is so... lazy, ignorant, inhumane? ... that I can't get past it. And regardless of all the nice work on character development for other characters, the way they all interact with Sophie unintentionally turns them all into pretty wretched excuses for human beings.

Basically, all Sophie does in the book is scream. This is seen by the other characters only as a burden on themselves. It causes problems with neighbors. They have to move. Sophie screams, and her family puts in earplugs. She screams until she loses her voice for a day or two, and the family then feels relief at the burden off their minds.

Never in the book do any of the characters question whether their may be a reason or cause for this screaming. Never do they try to communicate. Never in the times when she is not screaming do they try to engage. She screams, and that's a part of their life, or she is quiet, and is like a piece of furniture to them. They are reluctant to put her in an institution, which is supposed to indicate something about them having some feeling for her, some concern for her, but it m makes no sense here... there are no good times at home, there is no time when the sister/mother try to engage with her (except to try to shut her up), there is no indication that her life would be anything but improved in an institution. I don't say this lightly, and don't at all think institutionalization is the way to go in the vast majority of cases - but that's because in the vast majority of cases there would be at least a scrap of benefit, of happy experience, of deeper understanding, among family. Not here.

So, it turns out that Sophie can be calm and peaceful when around the neighbor's dog. During this good period of life when she is calm and peaceful, does anyone try to interact with her or engage with her? No. Does anyone think of getting Sophie a dog? No. Does anyone think that maybe they should find some other activities involving animals that might be good for Sophie? No. Is everyone content just to let Sophie act like a dog, as long as she isn't noisy and thus burdensome to them? Yes. When it's obvious the situation with this dog can't last, does anyone take any steps to address it? No. Again, get a freakin' dog for Sophie, find other situations with dogs/animals, anything? Even a stuffed dog? Doesn't enter anyone's mind.

During the course of this book, Sophie is picked up by a school bus and dropped off daily, for at least three years. What happens there? Does she learn anything? Does she sit there all day and scream? Does she haver any favorite activities that may indicate what would be good for her in the rest of life? Not a single word is said about what happens when Sophie is at school in the entire book. Noone seems to care. She's just out of sight, out of mind. Except when they think about what a burden her screaming is.

All these nice people, learning to love and care for each other, to find their inner humanity and connections, and none can see Sophie as a human being. We're supposed to feel bad about how the mother doesn't really see or understand the narrator. The narrator is able to see under the curmudgeonly exterior, and the curmudgeon to see so well inside the narrator to understand her best self, etc. But none of them even attempt to see Sophie. The only interaction they ever have is to try to get her to shut up. She screams, they want her to shut up. She is quiet, they don't want her to make any sound. In a crucial scene dealing with her future, she is attempting to communicate in a new way (I don't know if the author even intended it to be such) - making new vocalizations and banging a fork - and they scream "SHUT UP" in her face until she goes back to the same old screaming.

In all the catharsis, nothing is resolved for Sophie. No authorial nod is given to the fact that Soiphie - through her relationship with the dog - is the real cause of all the life-changing and coming together and getting into a better place. She's not screaming, so the characters neither hear nor think anything about her.

It is such a horrid, paper-thin, inhumane characterization of Sophie; and the actions of the people around her are so sure to guarantee that Sophie never improves her life or gets treated as a human being that they can't be seen as decent people, and any message the story aims to convey about human connectedness is obliterated. Blech!

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Good one view point

This book portrayed a very stable intelligent resourceful teenager that didn't have trust issues, amazingly. Dealing with the issues of poverty, overwhelmed negative thinking adults and autism the author also interjects an unusually gifted and perceptive dog. The result is immersion into a world of competence in the midst of hopelessness. This book had the feel of an amazing hidden upper hand that caused all things to work out for good.

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3.5--Very, Very Nice, But Really Short on Conflict

Catherine Ryan Hyde delivers, yet again, a nice, moving, character-driven story that has it's heart-warming moments that you'll love if you're a fan of hers. I am and have read, and listened, to many a book and audiobook with absolute pleasure. But, oh, I dunno, they're starting to miss a few beats. While I enjoyed the characters, there really was very little conflict and plot to drive the story forward, which made it difficult to listen through (this wasn't a cover-to-cover listen by any stretch of the imagination). There are problems, sure, but zippo conflict. And one would think, with the desperation, the devastation that can be wrought by autism spectrum disorder, there would be bouts of chaos, fighting to keep hope sprinkled throughout the story, there actually was not. It was simply a device. Indeed, the girl, Sophie, pretty much disappears from the narrative by the end. Gosh, how convenient.
If you're looking for gut-wrenching, long stretches of going against the odds and crying into a tissue: No, not here.
If you're looking for a few moments of warmth from likable characters who have to sort out a few difficulties as they travel through life: This is for you.
Especially as a Daily Deal or Half-Credit

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I loved this book.

Where does Where We Belong rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

Average

What other book might you compare Where We Belong to and why?

Take me with you by the same author.

What does Vanessa Johansson bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

She is a talented narrator.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

I never listen to a book in one sitting. I usually read two or three books at the same time.

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Not for me!

The slow pace of the novel and the whiney voice of the narrator were probably enough to disengage me. The teenage protagonist sounded like a nine-year-old but her words were those of an adult. And I failed to appreciate the touches of preachiness. I did finish the book after cranking up the speed twice.

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60 Yr Old Retiree Uses Dating Advice From Teenager

I can't finish this thing. A 60-something introverted man taking, and trusting, relationship advice from a sexually confused 16 year old girl? I just can't get on board with this.

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A story a little too hard to get into

It took me a long time to finish this listen. I felt somewhat invested and had hoped I would connect somehow with these odd characters. In this story a teenager is running the family and pretty much holding them hostage to what she thinks is right but is so clearly wrong. The narration is wordy and the end oh so predictable. I finished this one just kind of shaking my head and thinking glad I got through it.

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Friendship Defined

Angie is a young girl who had to grow up fast because her mother was having trouble doing it for herself. This is a touching story about how a family copes with the stresses of a special needs child in a single parent household. The story is sad, difficult and hopeful and happy. Told through Angie's perspective we learn all about loyalty, family and friendship through the hardships and lessons that come to such a young girl. And of course there is an adorable dog who helps guide them through their difficulties.

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