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Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me): Third Edition

By: Carol Tavris, Elliot Aronson
Narrated by: Carol Tavris, Elliot Aronson
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Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart? Why the parade of public figures unable to own up when they screw up? Why the endless marital quarrels over who is right? Why can we see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves? Are we all liars? Or do we really believe the stories we tell?

Renowned social psychologists Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson take a compelling look into how the brain is wired for self-justification. When we make mistakes, we must calm the cognitive dissonance that jars our feelings of self-worth. And so we create fictions that absolve us of responsibility, restoring our belief that we are smart, moral, and right - a belief that often keeps us on a course that is dumb, immoral, and wrong.

Backed by years of research and delivered in lively, energetic prose, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) offers a fascinating explanation of self-deception - how it works, the harm it can cause, and how we can overcome it.

©2020 Carol Tavris (P)2020 Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
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incredible insights into justifying our actions

Absolutely brilliant, it shows us ourselves in the burnished mirror of self justification, stemming from our attempts to reduce dissonance. Even more stark is the warning to America's voters on their choices facing them.. democracy or dictatorship!

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I loved it!!!

Brilliant!!!
Have you come across a friend/family member/boss/spiritual or political leader who changed his attitude 180 degrees and now is vehement about having the same opinion all along? Have you ever looked in disbelief at them thinking they are crazy/stupid/pathological liars?

I know that I did. Sometimes I even say it out loud. I wish I didn't. I wish I'd had the book years ago.
It is not about being crazy or stupid, It is about human nature and the tricks it plays on us.

And while reading (and learning) about America, the book teaches us about the whole world. It could be easily written with examples from my country (Romania) without losing or changing its message.

Strongly recommended for anyone who wants to learn more about cognitive dissonance and, in doing that, about themselves, their loved ones, their nation, and humanity.

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Super interesting

This book made me realise a lot about my own behaviours and other peoples! Would recommend

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