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  • Stopping the Roller Coaster When Someone You Love Has Attention Deficit Disorder
  • By: Gina Pera
  • Narrated by: Pam Ward
  • Length: 14 hrs and 55 mins
  • 4.3 out of 5 stars (10 ratings)

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Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?

By: Gina Pera
Narrated by: Pam Ward
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Summary

Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.? is a meticulously researched, comprehensive guide to recognizing and dealing with Adult ADHD, offering a message of hope for the millions of people whose lives this disorder has impacted.

©2008 Gina Pera (P)2011 Tantor

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"Insightful, helpful, witty, and very practical. This book can change your life." (Daniel G. Amen, M.D., author of Change Your Brain, Change Your Life)

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Biased Narrator

I have ADHD and this book was suggested to my wife. It have a very true and helpful view point but the tone of the narrator is SO negative about ADHD which is a shame because my wife and I love ADHD!

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A great introduction to ADHD

I would suggest starting with this book on the adventure of understanding ADHD for both partners in an affected relationship.
A solid grounding from which you can then go on to read the more scientific texts.

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  • david
  • 17-05-12

You will laugh and cry.

Gina Pera is an incredible advocate, coach, counselor and expert in Attention Deficit disorders. And, she has lived and survived a marriage to a highly successful ADD man. This book continues to be relevant and will make you both laugh and cry as you relate to the stories.

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  • Amy
  • 01-03-16

Negative VENT. Not helpful.

The author succeeds in normalizing the struggles, but does so in a vent sort of way. I can see it causing more disconnect in an already struggling relationship. There are lots of good books and therapists out there. Keep searching. Hallowell and Orlov are helpful and real.

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  • Andre Lefebvre
  • 08-06-16

Not a fluffy treatment of ADD/ADHD

Very difficult topic, well documented and expanded. However, after a few hours it felt like a hammer hitting me on the head, I was waiting for some "good" news, but I feel more discouraged about my condition the more I listen. I'm sure the author is not intending to do so, but to inform well so we know what we're dealing with. I'll be looking for encouragement in connected fields of therapy and personal development. Still, I recommend this book.

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  • Tim S.
  • 14-08-20

too little about how to support a partner

This book is 75% about how relationships can be difficult for couples where a partner has untreated ADHD. I would have preferred much less of this and much more about how to support your partner.

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  • Deb Evans
  • 12-03-17

Very insightful!

14 hours?! My friend recommended I read this, but coming in at 14 hours long I couldn't make myself download it much less start it. Then after weeks of kindly suggesting and gentle reminders, one day she exasperatedly exclaimed, "Read the damn book!" Having just been diagnosed with ADD at age 41 this book was tremendously helpful in meeting myself for the first time. I laughed out loud several times in the first section as I saw myself so clearly in the case study stories. The middle section was a little discouraging (and humbling) realizing the effect my decisions and behavior have had on my family and relationships. The last section was a bit much to take in with all the drug names and treatment options, so I'll need to listen to it again. Overall, I'm so delighted I read it (at 1.45 speed :) ) and feel hopeful that with some behavior skills from a trained professional in my tool belt and a proper dosage of medication, I will be able to more fully utilize my best self more often. This feels so hopeful! Now, stop reading reviews and buy the damn book already!

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  • Helen
  • 01-04-13

Must read.

This is a great book for anyone struggling with or trying to understand ADD. However, the long numbered lists embedded within other lists made me think I had ADD. Otherwise, it is full of useful information and a great introduction to the topic.

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  • Patrick
  • 25-03-13

Is it You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?

If you could sum up Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.? in three words, what would they be?

Informative Read

Any additional comments?

This is for anyone that has Adult A.D.D. or is a significant other to that individual.

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  • Kevin EarthSoul
  • 11-11-20

This book is mis-titled...

It should be "It's you and your Adult ADD: Divorce the bum before he ruins your life!" The author has an extremely negative and pessimistic attitude toward being married to an adult with ADHD. I recommend Melissa Orlov's and Dr. Edward Hallowell's books instead.

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  • Ava
  • 20-11-16

Not What I Expected: Descriptions Versus Solutions

Based upon the title and description, I was expecting to learn more practical steps on how to manage ADD and behaviors with relationships. Instead the book was primary stories that provided examples of characteristics of individuals with ADD.
Also, I found the narrator's voice to be difficult or me to listen too. I'm just, being honest. What the book did well was provide lots of examples of how family members experience ADD and how it affects and impacts those individuals. So, if that is what you are wanting, this is a great book.

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  • Jeremy
  • 20-08-15

A must read for anyone with ADD and in a relationship

Very good information for ADD and non-ADD spouses or anyone in an ADD affected relationship. I wish I had this book long ago and maybe I would have understood more about why I do things I do and the impact they can have on others that are important to me.

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