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  • Understanding the Borderline Personality
  • By: Jerold J. Kreisman, Hal Straus
  • Narrated by: Kevin R. Free
  • Length: 10 hrs and 32 mins
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Summary

The revised and expanded third edition of the best-selling guide to understanding borderline personality disorder - with advice for communicating with and helping the borderline individuals in your life. 

After more than three decades as the essential guide to borderline personality disorder (BPD), the third edition of I Hate You - Don’t Leave Me now reflects the most up-to-date research that has opened doors to the neurobiological, genetic, and developmental roots of the disorder, as well as connections between BPD and substance abuse, sexual abuse, post-traumatic stress syndrome, ADHD, and eating disorders.

Both pharmacological and psychotherapeutic advancements point to real hope for success in the treatment and understanding of BPD.

This expanded and revised edition is an invaluable resource for those diagnosed with BPD and their family, friends, and colleagues, as well as professionals and students in the field, and the practical tools and advice are easy to understand and use in your day-to-day interactions with the borderline individuals in your life.

* This audiobook includes a downloadable PDF with a resource guide from the book.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio. 

©2021 Jerold J. Kreisman (P)2021 Penguin Audio

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Very informative

Great book, well researched with a very objective and rounded viewpoint. With a good open perspective around limitations as well as good point for treatment 🙏

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Pretty good, some parts dubious/irrelevant

I'd already done some quite intensive reading on BPD so a lot of this was familiar, but there was some interesting new things. SETUP techniques seem useful, and I would have liked more approaches like that in the book.

At times the book drifted into politics and social science and made claims which it didn't seem to substantiate and which seemed more reflective of the authors' political views than of objective fact, and the relevance wasn't clear.

All in all a good book, but you need to be able to think critically and reject some of the books more questionable points.

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insightful, well read, useful step forwards...

The book is a useful step towards understanding the behaviours of such a person who is considered, to have a borderline nature towards the personalities of others, of of course, of their own.

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Excellent case studies

I learned a lot from this book. I’m going to read it again as there is a great deal of valuable information.

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Too political

Too much emphasis on irrelevant political topics like Climate Change and Covid-19, it's supposed to be about codependency and that part is fine but the rest totally spoils it. Please make the original version available.

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Blame related

I suffer from BPD and try to hold down a professional career as a lawyer. At times of crises I act out impulsively and poorly. I appreciate that but the message that my employer should judge me as a typical person in those scenarios is career ending and hateful. I’d hope we can both appreciate the issues and work forwards together. This book so far as I’m more than half way through puts all the blame with the sufferer and that’s a hopeless approach as we may as well end our lives if all the suffering is put back on us, as you’ve done.

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