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  • Break Cycles, Find Peace + Heal Your Relationships
  • By: Dr Nicole LePera
  • Narrated by: Courtney Patterson
  • Length: 10 hrs and 15 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (46 ratings)

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How to Be the Love You Seek

By: Dr Nicole LePera
Narrated by: Courtney Patterson
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Summary

UK bestseller, Sunday Times, December 2023x

A radical new path to revolutionise your relationships

Why are our closest relationships so often a source of more stress than solace? Whether the relationship is with a romantic partner, a parent, child, friend or colleague, the dynamic is frequently the same - you'd like the relationship to change for the better, yet nothing you try seems to work.

Author of international bestseller How to Do the Work, Dr Nicole LePera has heard these frustrating patterns of loneliness, disconnection, and resentment described time and again, both from patients in her clinical practice and from her global online community @the.holistic.psychologist. In this groundbreaking book she offers a new path to healing our relationships by tapping into the power of the heart.

How to Be the Love You Seek harnesses the latest scientific research to teach us how to recognise our dysfunctional patterns, identify their roots in our earliest relationships, break painful cycles, build security and share compassion with ourselves and others.

Through stories, exercises, journal prompts, and other practical tools, Dr LePera empowers us first to strengthen our foundation of self-love, paving the way for deeper, more harmonious connections with those around us.

When you become the love you seek, you have the power to transform every relationship, from your most intimate partnerships to the bonds that hold our communities together.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2023 Nicole LePera (P)2023 HarperCollins US LLC

Critic reviews

'I love Dr Nicole LePera. She helps me a lot.' GWYNETH PALTROW

'A practical and inspiring primer on how to extend true connection and love to others and to our hurting world.' DR GABOR MATE

'A loving, patient, and powerful guide to creating happy, fulfilling life relationships of all kinds. How to Be the Love You Seek is a masterwork of awareness and compassion.' JAY SHETTY

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Basic

I found myself becoming increasingly disengaged with this book.
Very basic and repetitive information, with a slightly annoying abrasive reader. I. I. I. Me, Me. Me.
I am sorry but I had to abandon this book when I noticed there were still 8 hours of self absorbed sharing to be endured.

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Listen to your heart

Lots of interesting thoughts and stories , but lots repeats

Easy to follow and good choice if you like to switch off from your daily routine

Wanted to have more practical tools

Overall - okay :)

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Liked

This book has some interesting points but because to more about the author and her love fairs at the end

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honest

Written from first hand experience, I like this, rather than using case studies and discussing how others can be impacted, the author talks about how they had to work all this stuff out themselves. I like that, it feels less us and them and humanising. The author discusses details of how we repeat the same cycles. I know about these cycles but having them elaborated from a first person experience, and repeated in some way seems to help me integrate them. I'm glad I've listened to this. I definitely need to look at my own needs to improve relationships and this has felt helpful.

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good book,well taught mostly

I did like the book but the romantic parts are off for me. It's also very repetitive like the most of Americans authors in this genere.

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Inspiring

This book has given me such an insight into myself and the world around me and given me tools to use in order to help me to listen to my heart and be the love I seek guiding me and helping me along to way of my healing journey, I am grateful to have listened!

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Excellent Listen

Most informative and enjoyable. Highly recommended for readers interested in this subject matter. Enjoyed it very much.

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Self story, superficial and not helpful

The title is very good, but the book tell about basic things and a self perspective from the author that may or not relate to you. Even if it relates, I felt I was hearing something I can could hear somewhere else. I miss going deep in some subjects and make it more relatable, instead of just a story about the author with some basic explaination. Very disappointed. I abandoned in the first hour.

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Life changing

I slowly realised this book required more attention than I was giving it as I mostly tried to listen whilst driving (I’m not great at multi tasking!) but the stuff I have already taken in feels to me like it’s going to change my world.
It’s honest, thought provoking and fresh.
I’ve now got the paperback version too and am going to give it the attention it deserves.

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