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  • By: David Richo
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  • Length: 9 hrs and 20 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (78 ratings)

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How to Be an Adult in Relationships

By: David Richo
Narrated by: David Richo
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Summary

"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this audiobook, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships - one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life:

  1. Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships
  2. Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are
  3. Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament
  4. Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways
  5. Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control

When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts - what Richo calls the five A's - form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.

©2018 David Richo (P)2018 Random House Audio

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So full of wisdom

Don't judge this book by it's cover. This is such a wise book and anyone who can hear it and live by it will be happy in life and in relationships. Needs more than one listen for it to sink in because it is so full of profound truth. I am listening to it for 15 minutes every morning and it is like a meditation that sets me up for the day. A much happier day than it would have been without it.

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I tried...

....for 4 hours but gave up with 6 hours to go. The text is dour and irrelevant in so many ways. Made worse by a reading voice that I still don’t know how I managed to cope with listening to for as long as I did.

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A very well written book packed with good information.

I found this book of great value, very well written full of good information and useful exercises. Although the narration was a little monotone with out too much expression which is rare when narrated by the author.
Overall a great book well worth a listen.

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Boring and unhelpful

I returned this book after listening to the first hour. Boring narrator and totally unhelpful

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Perhaps one to read rather than listen to?

I normally much prefer books read by the author but I really struggled with this one. I would really recommend listening to a sample before buying so you get a feel for the voice and delivery. You might like it but I am sorry to say I definitely wouldn’t have gone through with the purchase if I had.

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Very good kindness principles outlined.

Enjoyed listening to this book, narration could have been better, but overall content was very good.

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Rather slow but some good ideas

Delivery is too slow, and long gaps between the flashes of brilliance. Could have been more succinct.

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mandatory lecture before first relashionship

details are very well explained with exemples that paint a clear picture and make it easy to understand. very good book it should be a lecture for all adolescent before jumping to relashionships. I wish I would have heard this in clear my 20's

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Very informative!

This book is a must for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of adult relationships. the information contained within is invaluable. Unfortunately, I didn't love the narration.

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Best relationship and marriage advice

This book was vital in putting my love life on the right track, it saved my marriage, and I recommend it to all my friends who are looking to find, build and retain real love.

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