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Summary

Internationally renowned psychiatrist and author Irvin Yalom has devoted his career to counselling those suffering from anxiety and grief. But never had he faced the need to counsel himself until his wife, esteemed feminist author Marilyn Yalom, was diagnosed with cancer. In A Matter of Death and Life, Marilyn and Irvin share how they took on profound new struggles: Marilyn to die a good death, Irvin to live on without her.

In alternating accounts of their last months together and Irvin's first months alone, they offer us a rare window into coping with death and the loss of one's beloved. The Yaloms had rare blessings - a loving family, a beautiful home, a large circle of friends, avid readers around the world, and a long, fulfilling marriage - but they faced death as we all do. With the candour and wisdom of those who have thought deeply and loved well, they investigate universal questions of intimacy, love, and grief.

Informed by two lifetimes of experience, A Matter of Death and Life offers poignant insights and solace to all those seeking to fight despair in the face of death, so that they can live meaningfully.

©2021 Irvin Yalom and Marilyn Yalom (P)2021 Hachette Audio UK

Critic reviews

"Illuminating and vivid, a beautiful examination of the consolation of a life well-lived, and a beacon of hope to all of us who will be bereaved." (Kathryn Mannix)

"An unforgettable and achingly beautiful story of enduring love." (Lori Gottleib)

"Wise, beautiful, heartbreaking, raw." (The Times)

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Wow

so powerful and emotional. just wow. tissues will be needed
a great exploration of love, life and death

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Touching Haunting Honest journey from Love to death

Deeply moving and painful journey from the Yaloms, navigating the challenges and heart break of profound loss. One of life’s greatest cruelties: the separation of the beloved in old age. This is a generous and truthful book. Thank you.

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Heart rending yet life affirming

Yalom takes us through his final times with his wife, first with her participating and then alone. It feels like a hugely perceptive and honest account of experiencing the end of a 60 year plus relationship that will leave most of us staggered at its depth and reach. It is an inspirational though deeply sad account and can be read equally by scientists of the human mind and laymen like me.

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just love dr Yalom

what not to Love about Yalom he is pure genius. Such a powerful book.

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Powerful and comforting

Loved this book. It's a sometimes tricky subject, writing about death, but Irvin and Marilyn have made a wonderful, personal contribution to the topic. I found it both powerful and comforting to listen to.

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What beauty and calmness

so raw and real, I think one of the most relatable and wise books. My first time using audible and I've thoroughly enjoyed finding time in my days to take on this pebble I'd never have noticed on the shelf.

brought to tears and chuckled but overall made me think and feel as well as want more.

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essential reading

Beautifully written and narrated. I am so very grateful for the intensity and depth of emotion shared by both Mr and Mrs Yallom in their account of the most personal journey ever to be made by a loving couple.

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Beautiful writing

Painful and honest but ultimately a beautiful and real exploration of the ending of a life and what it is like to be the one who lives on.

I feel honoured to have been allowed a glimpse into these lives, and more prepared for what will ultimately come to us all.

Thank you.

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A Work of Art

I loved this entire book, and it touched me deeply. I found the chapter on sex and grief deeply honest, insightful and illuminating.

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wonderful recollection of a lifelong Love story

This is a powerful story telling of the end of Marilyn's life and the journey that they went on together both during that period towards death while looking back on their lives. It's a homage to their love and the meaning that they found through their lives and through each other. HIGHLY recommended!

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  • MARCELA OROZCO SANCHEZ
  • 14-08-21

Vale la pena

Muy conmovedora historia. Vale mucho la pena. lo recomiendo. La narración clara y apropiada. Muy bueno.

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  • 12-07-21

Fantastic book

Absolutely stunning. Loved it so much. Deep and very eye openning story. I can not wait to listen to an another book from Irvin or Marilyn Yalom

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  • Marius Wert Ramos
  • 02-07-21

WOW!!!

Another masterpiece by Dr. Yalom,(coauthired by his wife, Marilyn) beautifuly written, great audio. Real! Deep! Thank you once again, Dr. Yalom(and Marilyn), for this dark, nevertheless beautiful and powerfull book! I hope that I can still ser you publishing these wonderfull books in the future!

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  • Chestertoni
  • 26-06-21

Das schönste Buch von Yalom

Für mich sein schönstes, offenstes und persönlichstes Buch. A Matter of Death and Life Yalom

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  • 21-04-21

Wonderful Work

Even in their most private life affairs, Irvine and Marilyn does not miss the opportunity to be of help to others in dealing with death. What a privilege to be a part of the most intimate life and love story of Marilyn and Irvine Yalom....

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  • 12-03-21

Deeply touching

This book is very intimate and profound, and has shed light into Irvin's private life. It is written with such honesty that empathizing with his grief is not hard.