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Episode Description: In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we’re exploring the deep-seated belief that so many people carry—“Why can’t I ever be good enough?” that was shared by a listener. This thought often leads to cycles of rumination, especially for those who have experienced narcissistic or emotional abuse. If you’ve found yourself constantly replaying moments, questioning your worth, or feeling like you’re never quite “enough,” this episode is for you.

Through a powerful personal story, I share the moment when I was faced with this belief in my own life. During my marriage, I constantly found myself striving to be “good enough” for my ex, even when it felt like nothing would ever satisfy him. In this episode, I recount a particularly emotional experience that is proof that when you ruminate on "not good enough" you may turn to unbecoming or harmful behaviors just to feel worthy.

***Listener Disclaimer:
This episode contains an emotionally charged story involving the death of an animal. I know this may be upsetting to some listeners, so please take care as you listen. My goal is to share this story as a way to shed light on the deeper struggles behind rumination, but I want you to feel prepared for this content in case it’s a sensitive topic for you.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• How feelings of “not being good enough” create a loop of rumination.
• How that rumination can lead to unwanted and harmful behaviors.
• Why this belief keeps us tied to past events and emotional pain.
• How to start recognizing and questioning the subconscious beliefs that fuel rumination.
• A reflection exercise to help you identify the core beliefs behind your own recurring thoughts.

Plus: Join me on December 11 at 7 PM EST for a special Break Free from Rumination training session, where I’ll teach you specific tools to stop rumination and uncover the beliefs keeping you stuck. After the training, you can also join an exclusive $10 discovery upgrade session to get personalized help uncovering your own unique patterns.
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In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we explore how rumination keeps us tied to painful memories and emotions, especially after experiences of narcissistic abuse and emotional abuse. If you’ve ever felt that letting go of certain thoughts would mean losing a part of yourself, you’re not alone. Many people struggle to separate from repetitive, self-defeating thoughts, fearing they may be part of their identity.

Today, we’re breaking down why your thoughts don’t define you and how you can break free from the ruminations that keep you stuck. With insights into how the brain’s pathways reinforce these patterns and why past traumas can make rumination automatic, this episode will help you understand that you are far more than your thoughts. Tune in to learn actionable steps to reclaim your true identity beyond rumination and start your journey to healing.

Plus, I share a powerful example from a listener who experienced this struggle firsthand and offer a practical exercise to help you shift your mindset today.

Sign Up for the Free Online Training - Break Free From Rumination Here:
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Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com

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In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we’re uncovering the hidden beliefs that keep you tethered to emotional pain, especially after challenging experiences like narcissistic or emotional abuse. If you’ve found yourself stuck in a cycle of rumination, this episode will help you discover how deeply embedded subconscious beliefs—like feeling unworthy of love or fearing rejection—are silently holding you back.

We’ll dive into how these beliefs operate below the surface, shaping your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors without you even realizing it. Plus, I’ve created a quick quiz to help you identify the specific beliefs driving your emotional pain. You can take the quiz on my website to reveal what’s keeping you stuck. For everyone who submits their answers, I’m offering a free mini-guide with actionable steps to start shifting these beliefs immediately.

You can join the Free Online Training for December 11th at 7PM EST here: https://www.radiatenrise.com/joinus-fb43e29f-15c5-4a77-bd73-fff551b0e0d8. And if you want to go even deeper, I’m offering a $10 upgrade to a personalized group session where we’ll explore your quiz results together and work on dismantling those beliefs that keep you tethered to the past. Join me in this episode and take the first step to uncover what’s truly holding you back—healing is possible, and it starts here.

Get the Quiz Here: https://www.radiatenrise.com/what-are-my-subconscious-beliefs

Support the show

Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com

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*Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)