• Episode 113: Anxiety After Loss: Understanding the Why and Healing The How
    Jun 18 2025

    That racing heart at 3 AM. The constant checking on loved ones. The spiral of "what-ifs." If anxiety has become your unwelcome companion since losing someone to suicide, you're facing one of grief's most challenging but least discussed symptoms.

    Anxiety after suicide loss isn't a sign of weakness or failure—it's your brain's natural response to having your sense of safety shattered. When someone dies by suicide, our minds desperately try to restore order by scanning constantly for danger, even when no immediate threat exists. This hypervigilance, though exhausting, is actually your brain trying to protect you from further harm.

    Through this episode, we explore how thoughts trigger anxiety after loss and how seemingly automatic worries like "What if I lose someone else?" or "I should have seen the signs" create both emotional and physical distress. Rather than fighting these thoughts, you'll learn how to gently become aware of them while practicing more supportive alternatives like "I'm doing the best I can" and "It's okay to feel anxious right now."

    For those moments when anxiety manifests physically—through panic attacks, shortness of breath, or a racing heart—we share powerful body-based interventions including box breathing, sensory grounding techniques, and movement practices that help regulate your overwhelmed nervous system. Remember that your body is grieving too, and deserves the same compassion you'd offer a scared child.

    Many survivors find themselves trapped in patterns of trying to control everything after loss—obsessing over safety, predicting worst-case scenarios, or micromanaging loved ones. While understandable, this approach only intensifies suffering. True healing comes not from achieving perfect control, but from building trust in your ability to navigate uncertainty. As you implement the five practical approaches shared in this episode—naming feelings, practicing compassionate thinking, regulating your nervous system daily, seeking support rather than isolation, and allowing anxiety to move through you—you'll discover that you're capable of more resilience than you ever imagined.

    Share this episode with someone walking this path, subscribe to stay connected, and remember: you're not just surviving anymore—you're learning to thrive again, even amid uncertainty.

    As always, thanks for listening!

    We are a community dedicated to empower survivors of suicide loss along their grief journey. We invite you to check out our website to sign up for our weekly newsletter, along with other free materials."

    Website: https://www.survived-to-thrive.com/

    Email: amy@survived-to-thrive.com

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    27 mins
  • Episode 112: How to find friends that support you and get it!
    Jun 12 2025

    Friendship becomes a complicated landscape to navigate after losing someone to suicide. That steady ground of connection we once took for granted suddenly shifts beneath our feet as we discover who can truly handle the weight of our grief and who cannot. What's particularly jarring is how the people we expected would be our rocks often disappear, while unlikely sources of support emerge from unexpected corners of our lives.

    Grief performs a strange alchemy on our relationships. It transforms casual acquaintances into lifelines and sometimes turns lifelong friends into strangers. This happens not because your friends don't care, but because grief creates a vulnerability that many people simply aren't equipped to handle. We live in a society that remains largely grief-illiterate, where discomfort with emotional pain makes many retreat rather than draw closer when confronted with someone else's raw suffering.

    The signs of truly supportive friendship become unmistakably clear in contrast to those who inadvertently cause more harm. Real support never attempts to "fix" your grief or rush you through it. It listens without judgment, even when your emotions seem contradictory or overwhelming. It allows space for both your silence and your stories, letting you talk about your loved one freely—both the beautiful memories and the painful realities of their struggles. Genuinely supportive friends often say simply, "I don't know what to say, but I'm here," acknowledging their limitations while promising their presence.

    Finding these people might require looking in new places: grief support groups specifically for suicide loss survivors, coaching communities familiar with grief work, volunteering with suicide prevention organizations, or even curated online spaces where grief is discussed openly. Taking that first step—sending that message, joining that group, or saying yes to an invitation—might feel impossible some days, but connection waits on the other side of that courage.

    Sometimes the most healing step is setting boundaries with those who cannot meet you in your grief. Clear communication about what you need (or don't need) gives relationships the chance to adapt, but also gives you permission to step away from connections that demand you shrink your grief to make others comfortable. Your story matters, your grief matters, and so does your need for connection with people who can witness all of it without flinching.

    As always, thanks for listening!

    We are a community dedicated to empower survivors of suicide loss along their grief journey. We invite you to check out our website to sign up for our weekly newsletter, along with other free materials."

    Website: https://www.survived-to-thrive.com/

    Email: amy@survived-to-thrive.com

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    21 mins
  • Episode 111: When grief meets financial insecurity!
    May 21 2025

    Financial insecurity often accompanies suicide loss, creating additional stress during an already devastating time. While grief alone is overwhelming, money problems can add confusion, fear, guilt, and anger as survivors navigate the aftermath.

    • Survivors frequently face unexpected financial challenges after suicide loss
    • The deceased may have been the primary breadwinner or left behind financial disorganization
    • Shame often prevents survivors from addressing financial concerns openly
    • Financial insecurity represents a significant secondary loss in grief
    • Our nervous systems in survival mode aren't built for complex financial planning
    • Small perspective shifts can help move from paralysis to action
    • Start by understanding your current financial situation before making plans
    • Identify truly urgent expenses versus those that can wait
    • Ask for expert help from financial advisors, grief support resources, and trusted friends
    • Look into available support like Social Security survivor benefits or nonprofit assistance
    • Release perfectionism and remember your worth isn't tied to your financial situation
    • Take one small, kind step at a time toward rebuilding financial stability

    If this episode has spoken to you, please share it with someone else who needs to hear it today.


    As always, thanks for listening!

    We are a community dedicated to empower survivors of suicide loss along their grief journey. We invite you to check out our website to sign up for our weekly newsletter, along with other free materials."

    Website: https://www.survived-to-thrive.com/

    Email: amy@survived-to-thrive.com

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    21 mins
  • Episode 110: When Divorce Is On The Horizon
    Apr 30 2025

    Suicide loss fundamentally changes who we are, and sometimes these changes lead couples down divergent paths that can end in divorce. The aftermath of suicide often exposes existing fractures in relationships or creates new challenges as each partner processes grief differently.

    • Double grief occurs when navigating both suicide loss and the end of a marriage
    • Common struggles include blame, different grieving styles, emotional shutdown, and resentment
    • Grief acts as a portal that exposes what we can no longer pretend about in relationships
    • Divorce won't fix grief or take away the pain of suicide loss
    • Important to distinguish between wanting distance from your partner versus distance from your pain
    • Those initiating divorce should ensure they're making decisions from clarity, not crisis
    • Those being left need permission to grieve this second loss fully
    • Endings can create sacred space for rebuilding and rediscovery
    • You can honor your loved one who died and still create a meaningful life after divorce
    • You're allowed to hold both grief and growth in the same hand

    If today's episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs it. You can also subscribe, leave a review, or reach out through my website or social media for more support.


    As always, thanks for listening!

    We are a community dedicated to empower survivors of suicide loss along their grief journey. We invite you to check out our website to sign up for our weekly newsletter, along with other free materials."

    Website: https://www.survived-to-thrive.com/

    Email: amy@survived-to-thrive.com

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    20 mins
  • Episode 109: When Work Feels Like Too Much: Returning to Work After Suicide Loss
    Apr 16 2025

    The jarring disconnect between your shattered world and the normal workplace environment can feel impossible to navigate after losing someone to suicide. Whether you're returning after a few days of bereavement leave or struggling months later, this episode walks through the complex reality of grief in professional settings and offers practical guidance.

    Grief fog isn't just emotional—it's your brain's protective response to overwhelming loss. When you can't concentrate on spreadsheets or client meetings, it's not failure but your mind processing trauma. This neurological phenomenon explains why tasks that once came easily now feel insurmountable. Understanding this mechanism gives survivors permission to adjust expectations temporarily without shame.

    Work environments can either support healing or deepen isolation. While routine and structure benefit many survivors, unsupportive colleagues or inflexible policies can intensify suffering. We explore practical strategies like preparing scripts for awkward interactions, taking strategic grief breaks, setting micro-goals, and communicating boundaries. Success during grief might look different—sometimes just showing up is a victory worth celebrating.

    Most importantly, returning to work doesn't mean "moving on" from your loved one. You're learning to carry them with you as you navigate a changed world. The strength it takes to show up day after day with a broken heart isn't weakness but profound courage. If you're struggling to balance professional responsibilities with grief, know you're not alone. Share this episode with someone who needs these tools or reminder that they're doing better than they realize.

    As always, thanks for listening!

    We are a community dedicated to empower survivors of suicide loss along their grief journey. We invite you to check out our website to sign up for our weekly newsletter, along with other free materials."

    Website: https://www.survived-to-thrive.com/

    Email: amy@survived-to-thrive.com

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    14 mins
  • Episode 108: When Grief Works Against You
    Apr 9 2025

    Grief serves as a natural healing mechanism after losing someone to suicide, but certain thought patterns and behaviors can transform it from a healing tool into an obstacle that keeps us stuck.

    • Grief is love with nowhere to go - an extension of our deep connection with the person we lost
    • Our brains physically rewire in response to loss as they try to understand our new reality
    • Signs grief is working against you include persistent guilt, avoiding memories, emotional stagnation, and inability to find joy
    • Practical strategies include allowing emotions without judgment, seeking meaning in your loss, and taking small steps to reconnect with life
    • Professional support through therapy, coaching or grief groups can be transformative when feeling stuck
    • Happiness and grief can coexist - finding moments of joy honors your loved one rather than betrays them
    • Everyone's grief journey differs, but there's a distinction between processing grief and being stuck in it

    Take one small step today to let grief become a tool for healing rather than a force holding you back. Healing is not forgetting—it's learning to live again.


    As always, thanks for listening!

    We are a community dedicated to empower survivors of suicide loss along their grief journey. We invite you to check out our website to sign up for our weekly newsletter, along with other free materials."

    Website: https://www.survived-to-thrive.com/

    Email: amy@survived-to-thrive.com

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    21 mins
  • Episode 107: Why Grief Makes You Sweat The Small Stuff And How To Overcome It.
    Apr 2 2025

    Grief physically changes your brain, magnifying minor frustrations and triggering disproportionate emotional responses to life's small annoyances. Understanding the neuroscience behind these reactions can help survivors of suicide loss develop practical strategies to regain perspective when everyday stressors feel overwhelming.

    • Grief impacts three key brain areas: the prefrontal cortex, limbic system, and default mode network
    • Minor inconveniences like losing keys or spilling drinks can trigger outsized emotional reactions during grief
    • Prolonged grief increases cortisol levels, contributing to heightened irritability and emotional reactivity
    • Self-awareness and self-compassion are crucial first steps in managing disproportionate responses
    • The "power of pause" technique helps create space between triggers and reactions
    • Regular exercise, mindfulness practices, and quality sleep help rewire the brain's stress response
    • The "zoom out method" helps regain perspective by asking "Will this matter in a week?"
    • With practice, these heightened responses will gradually diminish over time

    Check out survived-to-thrive.com for more information and to subscribe to get the podcast's latest episode, along with useful tips you can begin to use immediately to feel better, directly sent to your inbox.


    As always, thanks for listening!

    We are a community dedicated to empower survivors of suicide loss along their grief journey. We invite you to check out our website to sign up for our weekly newsletter, along with other free materials."

    Website: https://www.survived-to-thrive.com/

    Email: amy@survived-to-thrive.com

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    27 mins
  • Episode 106: The Power of Planning For The Future.
    Mar 26 2025

    We explore the healing power of making future plans after suicide loss, demonstrating how looking forward can create purpose and stability while honoring our grief journey. Planning isn't about forgetting our loved ones but choosing to live fully despite loss, integrating our grief into a meaningful future.

    • Grief after suicide loss often leaves survivors feeling stuck in survival mode, resistant to planning ahead
    • Moving forward doesn't mean moving on—it means integrating grief while still choosing to live fully
    • Planning trips or experiences provides something positive to anticipate, helping lift grief's heaviness
    • Celebrations and milestone dates offer opportunities to honor loved ones' memories in meaningful ways
    • Career changes or personal goals often emerge as survivors recognize life's brevity and seek greater purpose
    • Start with small plans like a weekend getaway or dinner with friends to build momentum
    • Remember David Kessler's wisdom: "Healing doesn't mean the loss didn't happen. It means it no longer controls your life"

    If you liked this episode, please share it with someone who needs to hear it, and write a review on iTunes.


    As always, thanks for listening!

    We are a community dedicated to empower survivors of suicide loss along their grief journey. We invite you to check out our website to sign up for our weekly newsletter, along with other free materials."

    Website: https://www.survived-to-thrive.com/

    Email: amy@survived-to-thrive.com

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    21 mins