Do you ever feel stuck in the same dating patterns?

Do you think your past relationship is still affecting you?

Today, Jay unpacks the powerful and often hidden influence our past relationships have on our current dating pattern. Drawing from psychological research and personal reflection, Jay explores the concept of repetition compulsion—the unconscious tendency to recreate emotional patterns from our past, especially in romantic relationships. He reveals how our early attachments, particularly those with our parents and first loves, shape the way we love, what we fear, and even who we are drawn to.

With compassion and clarity, Jay outlines the five key signs that your ex—or more accurately, your past relationship wounds—might still be holding the steering wheel in your current dating life. He then re-introduces the attachment theory, helping them identify their own attachment styles—whether anxious, avoidant, or secure—and how these styles play out in their romantic behaviors. His message is clear: you are not broken, you are patterned—and patterns can be changed.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Recognize When Your Past Is Sabotaging Your Love Life

How to Break the Cycle of Repeating Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

How to Tell the Difference Between Familiarity and Safety

How to Avoid Self-Sabotaging Healthy Relationships

How to Reparent Yourself and Meet Your Own Emotional Needs

This episode is both a compassionate wake-up call and a hopeful guide for anyone seeking to build healthier, more fulfilling love. Whether you're recovering from a breakup or simply ready to stop repeating the past, this is the episode that could shift everything.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:16 How Past Relationships Shape Your Dating Future

02:39 We Recreate Familiar Emotional Patterns In New Relationships

09:18 Five Signs Your Past Relationship Is Affecting You

12:09 What Are The Different Types Of Attachment Styles?

22:35 The Path To Earned Security

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Have you ever had a hard goodbye with someone you cared about?

What’s one thing you wish you’d said to someone you lost?

Today, Jay sits down with Kate Cassidy, partner to Liam Payne — internationally beloved artist and former One Direction member — who tragically passed away in October. Kate opens up about the profound impact of losing her partner, the weight of grief, and how she’s learning to move forward. From their chance meeting in Charleston while she was working as a waitress to the whirlwind of building a life together, Kate reflects on the joy, the challenges, and the deep emotional connection they shared.

Kate expresses the emotional weight of being in the public eye, the toll of online criticism, and the realities of loving someone navigating mental health and addiction. She recounts the beauty in their every day routines, the balance they brought to each other’s lives, and the small, intimate moments that built the foundation of their relationship. Kate speaks candidly about the day she received the devastating news of Liam’s passing and the days that followed, marked by shock, numbness, and a grief unlike any other.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Support a Partner Struggling with Mental Health

How to Handle Grief After Losing a Loved One

How to Create Daily Routines That Support Healing

How to Find Strength When You Feel Powerless

How to Set Boundaries While Being a Caregiver

How to Keep Moving Forward When Life Changes Overnight

Kate's vulnerability is a powerful reminder that grief doesn’t follow a straight path — and that even in life’s most painful moments, there is space for love, learning, and hope.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:32 How is Kate Really Doing?

03:59 Kate Reveals Her Childhood Crush on Liam

07:19 The Moment They Met, The Connection Was Instant

09:40 The Beginning of Their Fairytale Romance

11:50 What It Takes to Build Real, Lasting Love

12:56 Staying Grounded Amidst Fame & Public Scrutiny

15:31 What Liam Taught Kate About Blocking Out the Noise

18:54 Liam’s Quiet Struggles With Mental Health

22:19 The Reality of Loving Someone Battling Addiction

30:05 How Kate Received the News That Would Change Her Life Forever

36:09 Kate Shares Her Final Heartfelt Goodbye With Liam

39:43 The Emotional Support That Got Her Through The First Days

44:05 No One Prepares You for This Kind of Loss

45:11 How Kate Learned to Breathe Again Through the Grief

54:44 Rebuilding Life After Loss One Day At a Time

56:39 Kate Reads a Love Letter From Liam

01:02:59 The Power of Collective Grief: How Liam’s Fans Helped Kate Feel Less Alone

01:06:52 Losing Someone Feels Like Losing a Part of Yourself

01:10:25 Why Talking About Your Grief Helps You Heal

Episode Resources:

Kate Cassidy | Instagram

Kate Cassidy | TikTok

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