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The Sex Lives of African Women

By: Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah
Narrated by: Maria Gbeleyi,Rachel Adedeji,Sara Powell
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Summary

Finalist for the 2023 AUDIE AWARDS® for Non-Fiction

A DOROTHY KOOMSON BOOK OF THE YEAR

AN ECONOMIST BOOK OF THE YEAR

Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah spent decades talking openly and intimately to African women around the world about sex. In this book, she brings together their extraordinary stories, whilst also chronicling her own journey towards sexual freedom.

From finding queer community in Egypt to living a polyamorous life in Senegal to understanding the intersectionality of religion and pleasure in Cameroon, their necessary narratives are individual and illuminating. This stunning collection provides crucial insight into our quest for sexual power and offers all women inspirational examples to live a truly liberated life.

©2021 Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah (P)2021 Hachette Audio UK

Critic reviews

"Extraordinarily dynamic.... A book like none you will have read before.... Documents and legitimises the desires and sexuality of African women, beyond every conceivable stereotype.... With sensitivity, this book has facilitated astonishing breaking of silences." (The Guardian)

"A beautiful, delicate and sometimes brutal exploration of African Womanhood and sexuality, honest and moving. A vital treasure." (Bolu Babalola, author of Love in Colour)

"Such a beautiful read, like chatting to a friend over a cuppa. This is the intimate, insightful read that I didn't know I needed. Just brilliant." (Dorothy Koomson, author)

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pain ,live,love and more pain

loved the book ,I don't t know why I had not read it sooner .
coming from a culture where alot if the issues in the book are not discussed ,it is enlightening to many am sure .I hope many are brave enough to read it /listen then the conversation start .

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Enlightening

it felt like reading an excerpt from my life! the stories were so vivid and touching. the book answered a lot of the questions I have in my head which I do not know whom to ask

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Enlightening and refreshing

I really enjoyed reading this book. The women’s stories were enlightening and it was refreshing to see that there’s such a wide range of sexual experiences and sexuality amongst African women who have been subjected to a lot of fetishism over the years.

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Magic of finding yourself

What a brilliant book!! Women are so resourceful and amazing - every single story is so important, enlightening and relatable.

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A Book I Never Thought I Would Read Even in 2022

I loved how open and honest the book is. The different lives, sexuality, experiences of these women. Lives so different yet connected in one way or the other. These are the stories of many told by few. What an eye opening book. I'm glad I read it and every African woman and man should read it too. You might learn something.

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Wow.

One of the best things I’ve ever read. It’s helped me in ways I can’t even e a plain

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Brilliant and Important

I was lucky to attend a live reading of this book and see Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah being interviewed as part of an African literary festival in London. Her energy and her candidness instantly seduced me. It takes a special person to be so honest about who they are and to potentially open themselves to judgment and criticism.

'The Sex Lives of African Women' is the result of extensive interviews that Nana conducted with women from the African diaspora in Africa, Europe and the States. It shares their intimate tales of sexual discovery as they recount some of their experiences. It explores topics such as sexual abuse, queer identity, polyamoury and the vast array of sexual desires. It is raw and funny.

It is essential reading for anyone calling themselves a feminist.

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Illuminating

Black women are often either invisible or hyper visible by being overly sexualised in the media. It was so refreshing to hear from the perspectives of Black women for once. Raw and real. Thank you to all the women, and the author. Although wish she had read parts of book. I winced at how so many Ghanaian names and words were butchered by the narrator.

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Interesting concept but a bit simplistic

I was very intrigued by the book but after the first story found many stories to be less interesting and similar/simplistic in a way I didn’t expect. I was expecting something deeper and more reflective. By the last 2/3 I was waiting for it to be over. I don’t feel like I’ve learned much from it unfortunately.

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An illumination on the sex lives of African women

This was a brilliant book and a necessary story to be told. It’s really good to see a true representation of the complexity of sex as it relates to African women.

Really easy to follow, very engaging book with lots of laughter and tears.

Beautifully written and read.

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