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Summary

A Dorothy Koomson Book of the Year

An Economist Book of the Year

Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah spent decades talking openly and intimately to African women around the world about sex. In this book, she brings together their extraordinary stories, whilst also chronicling her own journey towards sexual freedom.

From finding queer community in Egypt to living a polyamorous life in Senegal to understanding the intersectionality of religion and pleasure in Cameroon, their necessary narratives are individual and illuminating. This stunning collection provides crucial insight into our quest for sexual power and offers all women inspirational examples to live a truly liberated life.

©2021 Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah (P)2021 Hachette Audio UK

Critic reviews

"Extraordinarily dynamic.... A book like none you will have read before.... Documents and legitimises the desires and sexuality of African women, beyond every conceivable stereotype.... With sensitivity, this book has facilitated astonishing breaking of silences." (The Guardian)

"A beautiful, delicate and sometimes brutal exploration of African Womanhood and sexuality, honest and moving. A vital treasure." (Bolu Babalola, author of Love in Colour)

"Such a beautiful read, like chatting to a friend over a cuppa. This is the intimate, insightful read that I didn't know I needed. Just brilliant." (Dorothy Koomson, author)

"Nothing less than stunning. Essential read! I couldn't put it down." (Nicole Dennis-Benn, best-selling author of Patsy and Here Comes the Sun)

"Every single story leaves you feeling deliciously empowered." (Lola Shoneyin, author of The Secret Lives of Baba Segi's Wives

"Touching, joyful, defiant - and honest." (Economist, Books of the Year 2021)

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pain ,live,love and more pain

loved the book ,I don't t know why I had not read it sooner .
coming from a culture where alot if the issues in the book are not discussed ,it is enlightening to many am sure .I hope many are brave enough to read it /listen then the conversation start .

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Enlightening

it felt like reading an excerpt from my life! the stories were so vivid and touching. the book answered a lot of the questions I have in my head which I do not know whom to ask

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A Book I Never Thought I Would Read Even in 2022

I loved how open and honest the book is. The different lives, sexuality, experiences of these women. Lives so different yet connected in one way or the other. These are the stories of many told by few. What an eye opening book. I'm glad I read it and every African woman and man should read it too. You might learn something.

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Wow.

One of the best things I’ve ever read. It’s helped me in ways I can’t even e a plain

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amazing stories

second tome listening and enjoyed it even more. Reccomend to all my girlfriends, their sisters and daughters.

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Trigger warning

This book especially as an audio should come with a trigger warning and I’m very upset it doesn’t. I had to skip Mariam Genre’s account as the first 2 minutes were very disturbing I didn’t want to hear anymore. Most of the stories are sensitively written and narrated 1 or 2 are just crazy and graphic.

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Magic of finding yourself

What a brilliant book!! Women are so resourceful and amazing - every single story is so important, enlightening and relatable.

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What an I opener!

Very interesting and some that I could relate to. I loved that it was about African women. This is a rare find.

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Enlightening and refreshing

I really enjoyed reading this book. The women’s stories were enlightening and it was refreshing to see that there’s such a wide range of sexual experiences and sexuality amongst African women who have been subjected to a lot of fetishism over the years.

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brilliant

I can't recommend this book highly enough. I loved that there were so many different kinds of women and thier bravery to be so vulnerable so readers could, connect, empathise and learn from them

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It is insightful

I had initially avoided delving into this book because I imagined I was walking into trauma. I picked it up after a friend stated that that was not the basis of the book. It's majorly a narration of the featured womens journey into their sexuality. It is insightful, some stories warm despite the circumstances of the narrator's situation...others heartbreaking. Overally I am glad to have given it a chance

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  • Sylvia Ngenga
  • 29-11-21

Loved it.

I loved the honesty of this book told through all the women's stories and vulnerability