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  • By: Gary Chapman
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The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

By: Gary Chapman
Narrated by: Gary Chapman
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Why we think it's Essential: In a conversational and sincere tone, Gary Chapman practices what he preaches: clear, concise communication. I've heard from AudibleListeners that Chapman's words have inspired them to be better partners in relationships. What's not to love? — Diana Dapito

Summary

Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp!

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

©2005 Gary Chapman (P)2005 Oasis Audio LLC

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"Whether your marriage needs a tune-up or a major overhaul, these are powerful prescriptions delivered by a genial, wise man." ( AudioFile)

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Repetitive

Firstly, the recording is actually (for some odd reason) two almost identical readings of the same book. This felt like a rip-off as the content is only half what it says it is (5 hours rather than 10).
Secondly the narrator’s accent grated after a while and I ended up quite sick of it. Thirdly as others have noted, his examples are pretty sexist (and I’m a guy) , which I guess either reflects his clientele in Texas at the time he wrote this or he’s sexist. Lastly, it’s a bit overly religious in places which again grated at times.
Oh and I’m sick of the phrase “love tank”. Who seriously would ask their partner about their love tank?

The underlying message was really useful and I am applying it. Basically there are 5 ways you can show love to people but if you are using the wrong way then they won’t appreciate your efforts.

These are:
1 Saying nice things
2 Giving gifts
3 Doing things for them
4 Quality time with them
5 Touch

I’ve always been showing my wife my love by doing things for her. I now realise she appreciates quality time more.

It didn’t need 5 hours of tales about how Betty Jo isn’t getting dinner ready on time or being told to hold my spouses hand at church (like I go) to tell me this. I was also concerned about him telling one woman who sounded like she was in a pretty abusive relationship that she needed to give her husband more sex and more affirmation. It apparently worked, but equally the husband sounds like he got away with treating her like a doormat for years.

Anyway, overall the message was very good and has shown me where I’m gong wrong, but the presentation was woeful. No way am I playing “the love tank” game.

Honestly, you’d be better off reading a précis.

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Some food for thought

I bought this book on the reviews expecting something amazing ...

I had to dig deep within myself to find meaning in some areas but that's great right ??
It ignited some emotions and some thoughts about how I view love and how I love myself too ..

In parts I must admit a lot of the examples seemed sexist, I want a wife to cook my meals, clean my shoes, I want a husband who listens to me and buys me things, and I found myself annoyed by those example types ....
A great learning for me was asking myself why I was annoyed ...

If you are into self help and like challenging yourself to step outside of your comfort zone give this book a go, you may realise you have no clue what love really is because take away all the what I deemed as selfish congical requests what you are left with is this ....

Can you let go of your own Ego and live a life of service to someone else because you choose too??!!!

Wondering about my own love choices now so in essence a brilliant thought provoking read!!!!

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Self promotion

Little practical advice, just lots and lots of boring self promotion. Also it didn’t represent the modern family ...assumes husband is breadwinner and wife is home maker. I stopped listening after a while...wasted purchase

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Best for if you are Married and Religious

Found was focused towards married people only, also religion is mentioned frequently throughout including a 20 min intro. I had already heard of what the 5 Love Languages were and did not learn much more from buying this book.
If you are not religious then the amount it is mentioned in the book could be extremely off putting.

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Outdated, not for me

I think the core idea about this book is really useful. You can defiantly see how this is helpful to a lot of people, by understanding what the 5 love languages are and seeing how that can help your relationship. But after that, that's all you basically need to know. As the examples got on my nerves very male sided stories. Woman always trying to get their man to do chores and it's because they are not asking the man properly. It always felt like the woman was in the wrong.

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Eye opening and a must try for all couples

5 million people resonated with this. You cannot get wrong about it. I have just started to try the principles, and although I have to admit being skeptic in the beginning by the time I made it to the end I had bought in. Many thanks Dr Chapman for doing such a master piece for the well being of so many couples and people in the world.

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Great book for singles or in a relationship

didn't want to put it on pause. helped me to reflect on what I needed in previous relationships and how to better communicate and express caring in the future and with other friends and family now to meet their needs in a way they can understand.

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Wonderful

I fully enjoyed this book. I'm not married but have been with my partner for 12 years. This has been I great help and he wants to listen and apply too. FANTASTIC

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Such incredible insight

What made the experience of listening to The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts the most enjoyable?

every line of this book gives incredible insight into your own relationships

Who was your favorite character and why?

n\a

What does Gary Chapman bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you had only read the book?

great narrative style, as the combined author/narrator, can put his original intended emotion into the audiobook

If you made a film of this book, what would be the tag line be?

damaged relationships can always be repaired

Any additional comments?

a must read

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Very Good but dated

Pros:
- lots of Good habits
- Lots of examples of relationship types
- Explains how to find your love languages

Cons:
- content is dates and a focus on hetrasexual relationships only.
- Women clean the house, Men go out to work..
- His voice is like marmite, you either love it or hate it.

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