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Summary

A fresh approach to matters of the heart, teaching us that success in love need never again be just a matter of luck. 

Love has a history and we ride - sometimes rather helplessly - on its currents. Since around 1750, we have been living in a highly distinctive era in the history of love that we can call Romanticism. And it has been a disaster for love. 

Relationships challenges the assumptions of the Romantic view of love. It shows how to develop new attitudes that can lead to a psychologically mature vision of love: 

  • That it is okay that love and sex may not always belong together 
  • That discussing money early on, in a serious way, is not a betrayal of love 
  • That realizing that we are rather flawed, and our partner is too, is of huge benefit to a couple 
  • That we will never find everything we need in another person, nor they in us 
  • That spending two hours discussing whether bathroom towels should be hung up or can be left on the floor has its own dignity 

Full of applied real-life examples, and enlivened throughout with humor and cultural anecdote, this innovative guide paves the way to a new, brighter future for love.

©2016 The School of Life (P)2021 The School of Life

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Essential

Everyone should read or listen to this book, probably some of the most helpful things I’ve ever heard! Changed my life and hopefully my partners life as a result!

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I wish I'd read this years ago

A very insightful and refreshing overview of relationships. As someone who has only ever really known the "romantic" view of love, this book has helped me open my eyes to the possibility that view is flawed and there are other ways of seeing ones relationship.

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A great grounding for love.

Especially in the new generation, something else is expected from love and we get confused as to what it should look like. often we leave at the sign of any issues, I was one of those people! it's been a great book to help ground me and set my boundaries for romantic relationships

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Brilliant, awakening. Schhol of life Student.🤗

Thank you for enlightenment, in a time of
confusion
I both romantic and
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I think my relationship will survive. Well at least If my. beloved, gas the balance with me.
I will send this book as a gift in the hope my special one can choose what makes them happy. I can accept the outcome because this book has taught me a way forward. To be accepting 💗😊
Thank you School of Life.🤗

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Really helpful

Listened straight through and then listened again. I found this easy to follow with well placed anecdotes and wry humour, but also incredibly helpful in understanding why having a successful and happy relationship can seem so hard. I should have listened to this 30 years ago!

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  • 16-09-21

very deep and meaningful.

i will need to relisten to it more than once to understand the deepness.

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  • Angela
  • 29-01-22

Post Romantic view

This is my second time through this book and I feel like I still have so much to learn from it. This isn’t a normal self-help book, it’s more psychology made into simple language.

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 22-01-22

Are straight people okay?

Excellent narration, just like the YouTube channel.
The content is a bit basic for people who communicate proactively in relationships and generally work to be the best possible partner (a la my partner and I). But there are some good points about contrasting views and reasonable expectations that I found helpful.

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  • Noel Bourroughs
  • 19-11-21

a godsend

these people are marvelous and their work has really helped me heal. ESPECIALLY after the pandemic. thank you for being such wonderful love gurus :)