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  • It’s Them, Not You

  • How to Break Free from Toxic Parents and Reclaim Your Story
  • By: Josh Connolly
  • Narrated by: Josh Connolly
  • Length: 6 hrs and 10 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (7 ratings)

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Brought to you by Penguin.

'Blood is thicker than water'

'You'll miss them when they're gone'

'You can't choose your family'

How many times have you heard that family is sacred, even when your reality is different? It's Them, Not You smashes the false narrative that family is everything.

Equipping you with a deeper understanding of toxic family dynamics, resilience and wellbeing coach Josh Connolly will validate your experience and provide the tools you need to deal with emotionally immature parents and family members.

It's Them, Not You offers a pathway to heal your inner child and break free from past trauma. Whether your solution is to go 'no contact', place new boundaries or reconnect with community, this book is the ultimate handbook to help get unstuck and heal from the strongest wounds.

'A supportive and practical roadmap' - NICOLE LEPERA

'Deeply validating' - EMMA REED TURRELL

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2024 Josh Connolly (P)2024 Penguin Audio
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Brilliant!

Loved this book.... deep work but worthwhile. I've listened and will now buy a hard copy to work through the exercises as I think you really need to do the work in order to get the benefit. I'm a therapist myself and will definately use some of the inner child work in my practice.

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You saw into my soul!!!

Phenomenal book! Triggered a lot of emotions and the breath works and tasks were awe inspiring! This book has helped me so much!

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It’s them not you

Everyone would get benefits from reading/ listening to this book. I am grateful to the author for putting the work in to write it. I like his honesty.

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Expected more from the hype of the book.

I think Josh does great work on his own journey and with helping other people too.
But i didnt get from the book what i expected unfortunately.
I did get the book expecting there to be a bit more intensive work for healing.

It was basic tasks which iv already learned through the years which do work to an extent. However, from how Josh talks online I had the impression the work would have been better than what it was in the book.
Possibly my expectations were too high like the hype of the book.
I'm further on in my healing journey so the tasks just didn't work for me but will be beneficial for people just starting off on their healing.
Great breathing techniques after every chapter though, this I got real benefit from.

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