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  • By: Matthew Perry
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  • Length: 8 hrs and 49 mins
  • 4.4 out of 5 stars (4,008 ratings)

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Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing

By: Matthew Perry
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Summary

The beloved star of Friends takes us behind the scenes of the hit sitcom and his struggles with addiction in this candid, funny, and revelatory memoir that delivers a powerful message of hope and persistence.

In an extraordinary story that only he could tell, Matthew Perry takes listeners onto the soundstage of the most successful sitcom of all time while opening up about his private struggles with addiction. Candid, self-aware, and told with his trademark humour, Perry vividly details his lifelong battle with the disease and what fuelled it despite seemingly having it all.

Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing is an unforgettable memoir that shares the most intimate details of the love Perry lost, his darkest days, and his greatest friends.

Unflinchingly honest, moving, and hilarious: this is the book fans have been waiting for.

©2022 Matthew Perry (P)2022 Macmillan Audio

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Boring self indulgent baby man.

This is the first time I have written a review but as I wasted my credit on this meandering piece of junk I think this is more of a public service announcement rather than a review.

Where to start ? There are so many horrible things about this book. Buckle up and let’s hope there isn’t a word count of this review.

First , he writes as though he has never read a book and has no concept of entertaining the reader rather than himself. Full of platitudes and quotes that sound like a man that was given a book of quotes for Christmas and pulls them out to show people how smart and well read he is. He is constantly aiming for the profound but comes off as cheesy nonsense.

Second , he is a baby man that frames the people in his life as being cruel or cold when they have had enough of living with / cleaning up after an addict. Also as a side note, we get it - he’s rich /famous and he has dated woman that are so far out of his league yet constantly reminds the reader how he broke up with them all first. Seems very petty and immature.

Third, he constantly makes excuses when projects post friends where not successful. Never acknowledging the possibility that maybe they just weren’t that good. For someone that went to so many rehabs and attended various types of therapies you would think he would have come out of it if not showing that he has learned something but with some entertaining stories. At times it reads like a list of people that have wronged him, while at the same time paints himself as being strong and perceptive.

He was in an incredibly successful show and has a huge audience from that but when you consider the hype of this book truly it fails to engage or entertain. Had I not have been on a plane I would have turned it off and returned immediately.

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Sad

I'm sad to say i just struggled to empathise with MP, which is unfortunate as i like most, have loved him since my early teens. What i took away from this book is that he's a womaniser and is unwilling or unable to be satisfied despite his privilege and opportunity. His open idolisation of Woody Allen is also inappropriate and uncomfortable.

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Some interesting insights, mostly a narrative of self pity

I was pretty disappointed with this book; Matthew Perry comes across as self involved to the point of narcissism, and is eager to blame others for his problems.

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A story mostly of ego, greed and self pity!

Wow... I love friends, by my god, there is so much ego, greed and self pity in this book it was at times hard to stomach! I think Matthew Perry is lucky to have had people in his life who have cared for him and loved him at least half as much as he loves himself 🤷‍♂️.... Fame (Friends) has saved his life, had he not had the money behind him and admiration of people around him he would've been a gonner a long time ago.

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The one where Chandler can't say no.

It is hard to listen to this book and ignore the ravages addiction has had on this man. You can hear it in the slightly slurred words every now and then and the breathlessness. I don't think I have ever understood addiction, but Perry tells the story of a man taken to the edge of oblivion and managing to fight his way back only to willing go back to oblivion. There is something so brave and courageous about putting it all out there and coming off as a totally selfish, careless loser, which is how some people will no doubt see him. Not me, he has given me a glimpse of the unimaginable hell that addiction is. It takes everything away. Completely. Including choice and freewill - yes really. Who on earth would choose that for themselves? And that's the point, there is no choice, just addiction. I think when people as well as addicts understand that there might be more compassion and less stigma surrounding addiction. Forget who Matthew Perry is, he is just a man after all, but a man who has the ability to convey the truth about addiction.

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Blame blame blame

I really wanted to like this. I pre ordered this and way looking forward to listening to this audiobook. I am a huge Friends fan and watch all the seasons regularly.
Matthew comes across as a bitter man who blames everyone else for his addiction. Whereas actually, he had a wonderful support network around him and massive opportunities in life.
Such a shame as I now wish I hadn’t listened to it.

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Don't bother

it's shocking how this man sees women as social commodities and yet the saviours of his dreams!!

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Utterly harrowing

Thank you so much for writing in so much detail about so many personal things. This book kept me up all night listening. I really feel like I understand the Big Terrible Thing so much better now, Obviously I will never understand fully, but you have really opened my eyes to the reality of addiction. This is such a valuable book. I intend to get a couple of copies into the school library at the first opportunity. It will do so much more than years of staff standing up in front of classes trying to teach about addiction in PSHE

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Could not finish it

I read all but the last hour of the book. I kept hoping if I power through the book it would get better. But it didn't. MP is an addict. I get it, it's a disease. But frankly that disease does not excuse you to be a selfish, cruel, egoistic. Frankly a terrible writer. The book is repetitive (I am sure its a clever play on addiction being repetitive), dull and left me without any empathy to Matty. Yes, you did do it to yourself and you do like the drama that being an ever relapsing addict grants you. I'm promptly returning this book. (Yes you can do that)

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Poor me

Hmmm,
It appears all his problems was caused by someone else....
Poor poor me...

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  • John
  • 24-11-22

The Big Terrible Thing is actually this book

Slow, repetitive, dreary, and disappointing. Spoiler alert: he finds God. Of course. I had high hopes but this was a struggle to finish. Returned.

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  • Corliss
  • 20-12-22

So repetitive and self absorbed!

7hrs in & I can’t believe I’m still listening! Keep thinking he will get over himself - he hasn’t. I have know and worked with addicts for years - I’ve never known one to feel so very sorry for themselves as ‘Matty’ does - he with so much support and the extraordinary resources to help himself. But still - in his 50s has to tell us how wonderful he is. Matthew I’m glad you’re straight & hope you stay that way but nothing much will change til you get over yourself.

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  • Nicholas Bryant
  • 01-11-22

The High Highs & Low Lows of being Matthew Perry

This is an absolutely fascinating tell all story. As a massive fan of the actor and his character on Friends, it exceeded my expectations. The depth he goes into explaining his high highs and low lows - and hitting rock bottom and then going through rock bottom - is gut wrenching and heart breaking. Never knew how shocking his addiction was nor his ability to hide it and still perform. 10/10

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  • 01-11-22

Chandler / Mathew

Nothing short to be called
Real struggle of Mathew Perry / Chandler Bing.
His acting skills and comic timing were no match to any other actor in his generation or any future generation.
I wish we saw more of his work or had more of his interviews. Please don’t ask him about his past personal issues. Ask him how good of an amazing actor he is.

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  • Damian Murphy
  • 07-02-23

Honest and entertaining

This was a really good listen. Matthew Perry didn’t hide behind anything or make any excuses, he left it all out there. Interesting to get this kind of insight into such a recognisable character.

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  • Ela
  • 05-02-23

Amazing book, authentic

Apart from the shocking life and struggles w. addiction of M. P., this book is incredibly authentic, real, true, no Hollywood sugarcoating, brave and moving. I feel for M. P., and the courage he mustered to put himself out in a real way after everything he has been through.
Highly recommend.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 27-01-23

Excellent!

This was so worth the listen. I’m moved by his honest and accountable attitude. His bravery and humour are stellar! To struggle and survive, and then to recount this journey! That’s courage. Could he BE anymore special! ❤️

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  • Zaanie
  • 26-01-23

Heartwarming, heartbreaking, honest.

Matthew shares his story with such openness and honesty, it is a honor to listen to it. I was surprised, captivated and moved…yes, to tears. Bravo Matty! Long may you be well; true and free of fear. It is liberating xx

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 21-01-23

Amazing story of recovery

Great lessons on recovery and sobriety. Really captures his resilience and experience, strength and hope.

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  • 15-01-23

Inspiration

Loved, incredible and unbelievable story.
Thank you for surviving Matthew, you always made my life happier with friends. ❤️