Listen free for 30 days

One credit a month, good for any title to download and keep.
Unlimited listening to the Plus Catalogue - thousands of select Audible Originals, podcasts and audiobooks.
Exclusive member-only deals.
No commitment - cancel anytime.
Coming Apart cover art

Coming Apart

By: Daphne Rose Kingma,Katherine Woodward Thomas - foreword
Narrated by: Ann Richardson
Try for £0.00

£7.99/month after 30 days. Renews automatically.

Buy Now for £10.89

Buy Now for £10.89

Pay using card ending in
By completing your purchase, you agree to Audible's Conditions of Use and authorise Audible to charge your designated card or any other card on file. Please see our Privacy Notice, Cookies Notice and Interest-based Ads Notice.

Summary

Next to the death of a loved one, the ending of a relationship is the most painful experience most people will ever go through. Coming Apart is a first aid kit for getting through the ending. It is a tool that will enable you to live through the end of your relationship with your self-esteem intact.

Originally published in 1987 and continuously in print since then, Coming Apart has been an important resource for hundreds of thousands of people experiencing the pain and stress of a breakup. This new edition features a foreword by Katherine Woodward Thomas, author of Conscious Uncoupling.

Daphne Rose Kingma, the undisputed expert on matters of the heart, explores the critical facets of relationship breakdowns: 

  • Love myths: why we are really in relationships
  • The life span of love
  • How to get through the ending
  • How to create a personal workbook for finding resolution

Time does a lot to heal our broken hearts, but really understanding what transpired in each of our relationships is what allows us to finally let go and move on.

©2012 Red Wheel/Weiser, LLC (P)2018 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

What listeners say about Coming Apart

Average customer ratings
Overall
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    44
  • 4 Stars
    8
  • 3 Stars
    2
  • 2 Stars
    5
  • 1 Stars
    2
Performance
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    35
  • 4 Stars
    8
  • 3 Stars
    5
  • 2 Stars
    4
  • 1 Stars
    0
Story
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    32
  • 4 Stars
    12
  • 3 Stars
    1
  • 2 Stars
    5
  • 1 Stars
    2

Reviews - Please select the tabs below to change the source of reviews.

Sort by:
Filter by:
  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    4 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Found this really helpful whilst going through separation

Parts of this book were really helpful to help me come to terms with things and put a different spin on the situation.

  • Overall
    2 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    2 out of 5 stars

Dissatisfied

Although the book does make some valid points regarding relationships and how we sometimes may put too much pressure or expectations on them, I felt as if the author diminishes romantic relationships and almost supports the idea that relationships are just temporary and should be just that, stay until you’re not happy and move in to the next

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Must listen.

Cannot believe this book is for free. Easy going but profound insights gave me the tools to ease my pain, accept my reality, find another meaning in my relationship and also justify me desicion to move on.
You have to listen it either you are single, in a relationship or exiting one!

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Says it all

can't believe this was free. Would recommend to anyone who wants tonknow if the should move on.

Sort by:
Filter by:
  • Overall
    2 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    2 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for NeVi
  • NeVi
  • 25-04-21

Title does not reflect the content

Although these relationship narratives and explanations of the origins of difficulties in relationships are helpful for insight and reflection, the issue of a broken heart (the sadness, grief, and longing that go along with the feelings of brokenness are not addressed. If the point is helping through this difficult and painful transition, then exactly those issues should be addressed and how to cope with grief. It also would help to have guidance as to how to transition into living alone.

3 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    3 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for K. Kennedy
  • K. Kennedy
  • 13-05-21

ONLY read if you are 1000% sure it's over

This book is for people who absolutely do not want to be w/ their ex again. This book preaches that every relationship that ends is supposed to end forever. It can be disheartening for people who are simply on a break and the relationship still has some life and can reconcile. So if you completely want to move on to another person - sure read this.

2 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    1 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    1 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    1 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Kindle Customer
  • Kindle Customer
  • 11-10-20

Narrator sounds so nasally and whiny.

it was so annoyingly repetitive. seriously giving the same examples over and over and over again in different ways without a single pause. just filler bs. worst was that the narrator was pretending to be that person complaining so you literally were listening to her whine in different ways over and over again. unbearable

2 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Amy Mackie
  • Amy Mackie
  • 29-05-21

helped me heal from divorce

excellent read when you are searching for emotional healing from a divorce. practical and useful advice

1 person found this helpful

  • Overall
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    3 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for E. J. Walters
  • E. J. Walters
  • 26-04-21

Bored to Tears

Suffered thru this read. The voice had no real emotion and just droned on and on. There might have been some substance, but I couldn’t focus because of the speaker. And there were many parts that were duplicated. Waste of time.

1 person found this helpful

  • Overall
    2 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    4 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    2 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Mark
  • Mark
  • 21-03-21

Didn’t really help me.

I frequently found myself thinking what the hell? This book basically just tells you that your relationship is over and to not waste your time trying to work on it.

1 person found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Carolina Villamizar
  • Carolina Villamizar
  • 01-09-20

what a wonderful divorce guide!

having gone through a divorce and read many other books at the time, I think this book is a kind guide to understand what happens. The author has a real sense of what needs to happen and being in the last stages of the grief I found it compelling and refreshing.

1 person found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Anonymous User
  • Anonymous User
  • 19-03-23

HEELING

This book made everything make sense. Great read, heeling book, a must read post breakups.

  • Overall
    4 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    4 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    4 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for BookGirl54
  • BookGirl54
  • 12-02-23

If you do the work, this book will help you

First, let me say that this book is written to address, traditional, male, female relationships. If you are in that type of relationship and you either suspect it is ending, or it has already ended, reading this book will help you. It is very straight forward, and includes some not so easy to listen to truths. The biggest of those is, relationships do not last forever. So eventually, you are going to have to go through a break up. With the help of this book, you can come to see that even a break up that you didn’t want, Ken be good for you. I strongly suggest doing the exercises, although most people probably won’t. It is very time consuming, and it brings up a lot of emotional issues. However, I assure you that, if you do the work, you are going to feel much better about your situation. Even if you don’t do the exercises, this book is just good, practical validation of what people experience when relationships end.

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Harry Guillen
  • Harry Guillen
  • 18-01-23

Finally a book that helped me.

The way this book approached a breakup really spoke to my situation. It made me realize more things about my relationship that were wrong more so than any of the other books I’ve gone through.