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  • How to Avoid the Gaslight Effect and Healing from Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse
  • By: Dr. Theresa J. Covert
  • Narrated by: Trei Taylor
  • Length: 3 hrs and 2 mins
  • 4.4 out of 5 stars (16 ratings)

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Gaslighting: The Narcissist's Favorite Tool of Manipulation

By: Dr. Theresa J. Covert
Narrated by: Trei Taylor
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Summary

Still struggling from the effects of an abusive relationship? 

Many people do and sadly there is very little information available to be found online or in the written research, or with counselors and therapists that can help. The Gaslight Effect is not officially recognized, nor is it widely even known. 

Even when it is accepted, recognized and known, not many people seem to know what to do about it to heal it.... The fact is being in a relationship with a narcissist over a long period of time has long lasting traumatic effects that can be extremely catastrophic to the person suffering them. 

Do the following symptoms sound familiar?

  • Doubting yourself and your sanity
  • Feeling like you’re losing your mind
  • Feeling like you’re always apologizing
  • You’re second-guessing your memory
  • Feeling like you aren’t good enough
  • Feeling misunderstood
  • Feeling lonely
  • Ruined self confidence
  • Extreme weight loss or weight gain
  • Uncharacteristic jealousy/insecurity
  • Feeling like you don’t know the difference between right and wrong
  • Extreme paranoia (being turned into an obsessive detective)
  • Endless, repetitive obsessive thinking about your ex
  • Constantly trying to find explanations for what has happened
  • Feelings of helplessness and despair
  • A desire to self-isolate
  • Feeling desperately misunderstood
  • Overwhelming feelings of loss and grief
  • Extreme bouts of rage
  • An inability to be comfortable with yourself
  • Strange dreams
  • Sudden inexplicable anxiety followed by rapid dips into depression
  • The list goes on....

“Nobody understands!” I hear this frustrated cry from abused people a lot.

Gaslighting is a covert aggressive way of distorting another person’s perception of reality to the point that that person questions their sanity or their memory. 

Gaslighting is crazy-making, it makes you think that you’re actually going crazy. 

Gaslighting is a way of hiding the abuse. 

Gaslighting is lying with a goal. 

The motive behind the gaslighting is to make you think that you’re crazy or that your memory doesn’t work right. So you can’t trust yourself and your perceptions of reality. 

This means you’ll defer to the abuser for an account of what’s real so slowly over time the abuser becomes the authority over your life. 

Gaslighting takes place in relationships, like one-on-one relationships. It takes place in friendships, in family, in work, you’ll see gaslighting on the news, you’ll hear gaslighting coming from politicians, corporate shills, cult leaders, advertising commercials, etc. 

What you will learn:

  • Top 10 signs you're being manipulated with gaslighting
  • 80 things narcissists say during gaslighting
  • Six empowering ways to disarm a narcissist and take control
  • How to avoid mental manipulation
  • How to deal with the effects of gaslighting
  • How narcissists employ smart devices 

 What you need now: 

  • Someone who has been through the same experiences you have and understands them from the inside 
  • Someone who has the knowledge, training, education, and experience working on himself and others to lead you through the emotional sh*tstorm that breaking with a narcissist can create 

I can’t promise you that listening to this audiobook is going to be a “total cure”, but I can promise that if you apply yourself dilligently, take notes, listen and re-listen the sections, follow all instructions to the letter, with a  tenacious resolve to get better you will feel an instant decrease in anxiety within the first 24 hours and should see huge improvements within the first three days.

This is not hype, this is what my audience commonly reports.

©2019 Dr. Theresa J. Covert (P)2019 Dr. Theresa J. Covert

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Comprehensive - saved me

I ended the relationship because I was sinking: unhappy gaining weight and questioning myself.
He lied and manipulated me
This book saved me....am 60 years old and have never experienced this type of experience
This book is insightful a saviour and a guide.
I play chapter 22 over and over
Each day I am getting stronger
Even a highly emotional intelligent professional can fall victim....never again now I have knowledge
Thank you.x

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very informative

very informative and gives good solutions too to everyone who has suffered from gaslighting and its terrible effects

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no gaslighter has hope of redemption

i found myself exhibiting gaslighting behaviour towards my wife, and also experienced the behaviour from colleagues. i bought the book to try and pinpoint these issues in myself to address them, and this book feels like it states that people who gaslight cannot be helped. i want help, and nowhere on the market has a book to help me.

performance was robotic, not my preference of audio experience.

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Extremely helpful!

Helped me to understand devastating situations in my relationship, just on time. Thank you so much!

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Life changing

An excellent book to recognize abusive patterns and red flags of Cluster B personalities. Beautifully written, very understandable and relatable book for anyone going through the emotional roller-coaster of an abusive relationship. The first step on the road to healing yourself and leading a happy and healthy life. I opened my eyes to the kind of relationship I had in my life.

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  • susannah
  • 13-12-19

Stop scrolling and buy this: Life Changing

I have read many books on the issue and this one is the best. It is clear and hits the mark on what gaslighting is and how to recognize and recover.

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  • Tish
  • 25-07-20

Painful to listen to.

This book did have a few good and educational points, but none very impressive. It felt like the book was written by a layperson, whom one day decided to write about their personal experiences and then submitted the title to be read by an inexperienced narrator, whom performed with little inflection or inflection in all the wrong places! What's worse is that it feels like the book didn't have an editor. I'm unsure if this is due to the author's bad grammar or the narrator's inability.

There are many, MANY much better books Bout narcissism, on the market. I'd recommend one of them, instead of this one. "When Love Is a Lie", for instance or "Psychopath Free". Both examples are excellently written and well read audiobooks, on this subject.

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  • AG516
  • 24-10-20

Practical

This is a very good book if need help convincing yourself you are the victim of gaslighting. I wish there was more info on how to deal with a narcissist.

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  • Sterling
  • 25-07-22

ON POINT!

Well researched. Lots of outstanding examples to help in illustrating the points that are put forth. Excellent resource for anyone suffering under a narcissist.

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  • D. Thrower
  • 12-07-22

Ready to fight back

I love this book. I will listen to it for as much time it takes. I recommend this book whole heartedly.

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  • Tracy Ellen Franke
  • 09-05-22

Narcissists are not evil

I don’t agree with the blaming attitude toward persons accused of being narcissistic. Most human beings are somewhere between altruistic and narcissistic in different circumstances. If early in childhood or somewhere along the way to adulthood a person doesn’t feel loved unconditionally by anyone or anything, they will try fill that gap until they find a solution. A lot of damage is done when hate is given to children. We are responsible for living and protecting ourselves. The blame game is counter productive, and I think most people are unaware of their narcissism and the damage it does. Thanks.

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  • anthony pierre
  • 30-03-22

For those looking for a better relationship.

Definitely, a book to a8de in healing after a traumatic relationship and future of peace.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 16-12-21

It gave some good information

This book was good and gave some good insights to the subject. I do wish it would have been a little longer and went more in depth about how to deal with this issue.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 09-11-21

Well written

If you have Googled gaslighting, this is worth a read. It’s well written with examples.

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  • Emily
  • 21-10-21

If you are reading this, stop to think why.

Domestic abuse will forever be left open to interpretation. The Support is there. How we choose to “see” it, unfortunately is another story.